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KaosReigns Tue 29-Dec-15 14:06:25

Parents are driving me up the bloody wall.

I am 15w pregnant, and have been suffering from HG for the past couple of months. I haven't left that house except for medical appointments, and when I do I vomit, or retch, the entire time.

My fiance has been amazing, and despite the fact that I am driving him insane, he is taking great care of me.

I know my parents mean well but their form of support is constant phone calls, even though I have explained repeatedly that I'm not up for it (and don't give two shits what "that woman" at work has been up to today), constant nagging to go to the doctor, and comments about the damage I am doing to the baby by being so ill.

Mother insists that things will be much better if I just get a diagnosis. I have shown her paperwork from my doctor confirming my diagnosis but she seems to just ignore this. She also makes repeated passive aggressive comments such as "do you even want this child to have grandparents?" and "will you even tell us when the child is born?". I grew up with this shit and call her on it every time, but it's still pissing me off. Oh and did I mention the constant speeches about how stressful this is for her, apparently it is making her so sick she can barely eat (unfortunately I was too unwell to laugh out loud at this).

Father on the other hand asks every second day if I'm back at work yet. He will ask how I'm feeling, and if I say still the same insist that I go back to the doctors because apparently they must have some miracle cure that they forgot to mention last time. He has made it clear that he thinks I just need to toughen up and get on with it, because everyone gets morning sickness right. Also I am doing irreparable damage to the baby by being so ill, mentioned every freaking time, and he was not amused when I said to be fair the kid was the one harming me at this point.

AIBU to have not answered or even checked my phone since Christmas day? Which I spent at home, alone, feeling like shit/sleeping, and to be honest loved it (except the feeling like shit part).

Apologies for the length, it would appear that I needed to vent and I can't actually string that many words together our loud at the moment.

KaosReigns Tue 29-Dec-15 14:07:57

I should add that they are divorced, so must be dealt with separately. Which just makes it so much work.

hellsbellsmelons Tue 29-Dec-15 14:43:26

You ignore that phone for as long as you want.
When your mum starts having a go, just put the phone down.
I'm sorry you are having a shite time.
And congrats on the pregnancy.

ElfOnTheBoozeShelf Tue 29-Dec-15 14:50:51

Sod ignoring the phone, change your bloody number.

Of course you're not unreasonable.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and I hope the HG eases off soon.

DartmoorDoughnut Tue 29-Dec-15 14:54:02

YANBU at all you poor thing, have some unMN ((hugs))

ElinorRochdale Tue 29-Dec-15 14:56:27

Well, as to causing damage to the baby, you could point out that the Duchess of Cambridge had hg with both her pregnancies, and her children appear to be fine. George was an early walker.

But yes, ignore the phone, maybe just send an occasional text to let them know how you are. And congratulations on your pregnancy.

KaosReigns Tue 29-Dec-15 15:03:20

smile Thank you, feel much better about it now.

It's been 4 days now (I think, I honestly have no concept of time at the moment) and I still can't bring myself to pick the bloody thing up.

Not looking forward to the inevitable fallout, but I have the convenient excuse of starting to vomit whenever I want out of a conversation.

Kaytee1987 Tue 29-Dec-15 16:46:40

Yanbu and without saying something really rude about your parents I can't say much else.
Poor you this sounds awful, I have 'normal' pregnancy sickness / nausea and that's bad enough.
Could you ask your partner to deal with them somehow?

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