I bought it, not a problem, they are kids and although DD is 18 I wouldnt expect her to take them shopping.
I gave it to DD (18) so they could wrap it (at her behest, I didnt ask her to). It never appeared under the tree. I was a bit confused but didnt think much of it, it was chaotic so I just put it down to that.
Went into her bedroom earlier and there it was, unwrapped. I just said "Oh!" as I was just abit surprised to see it there, out on the side as it was. I got "What? Oh yeah...forgot to wrap it, do you want it now?"
Now I probably shouldnt have said "no its ok" and walked out, but I was upset. It has been a really shitty Xmas and after all the time and effort I put in for them and especially her, I was hurt that she hadnt been bothered to make sure I got one gift for me from them.
She got really stroppy with the old "I SAID I was SORRY alright?!" and kept saying that she didnt understand what the fuss was about. So I asked her how she would have felt if I hadnt bothered with her gifts, or hadnt made sure she had got her main present (money) so she could order the tablet pc thing she was saving for (which came today much to her delight). That was different apparently.
I didnt get angry, I was just genuinely upset that she didnt seem to care and was angry with me.
She is now sulking for me "having a go" at her, which I didnt, I really didnt. I didnt do any passive aggressive "After everything I have done for you!!!!!!" type stuff, I just asked her to consider how she would feel if it was the other way around.
And its not the gift that matters, but that not one of them thought about the fact that they hadnt given me a gift when normally they would. They are 18, 13, 11,10 and 4 and DD1 took it onto herself, she said that she would take it and get them to wrap it and she didnt.
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Bogeyface · 29/12/2015 00:07
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