DD is 9 and gets a small amount of pocket money every week. She normally saves it up and then she'll as if she can buy something from H & M/Matalan/Primark etc; normally she chooses a top or fancy tights or something.
MIL is absolutely horrified by this and says that I should not allow this and that a 9 year old should not be 'expected to clothe herself'. This is absolutely not actually the case. As with DS, if she needs something, we get it - she is not shoved down the mines in order to feed and clothe herself. DS saves his up and buys Lego which MIL has no problem with but she is apoplectic about DD choosing to buy something to wear. If she was spending shit loads of money on sweets then that would be fine, just as long as she's not wearing them!
The whole point of them having a bit of pocket money is to try and teach them the value of money and I think it's a good thing that she is saving up for something she really wants. MIL says we should be buying all her clothes regardless but I don't think we should shell out just because DD decides she wants something (nor does she, she's very sensible and knows things cost money). Incidentally, I love clothes myself and DD is not short of nice things to wear, nor is DS but I think having to 'save' for something you really want is a healthy attitude to money.
It's obviously none of MIL's business and we'll carry on as we are but she's made me feel absolutely shit and I'm now starting to doubt that we're doing the right thing. What do you think?
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WilburIsSomePig · 28/12/2015 17:19
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