My two siblings and my step father live an hour away from me . My mum has passed.
My older sibling has been over to visit me once in 6 years . My father has been over to visit me three times in 6years .
My younger sibling has been over to visit occasionally when we are going to do something for the day.
I have two young children . My older sibling has one teen and my younger sibling doesn't have children.
All of us drive and all of us work .
I used to drive over to visit my family every other weekend until I got fed up .
It's always me facilitating the exchange of birthday / Christmas gifts by me driving over to them .
Three days before Christmas I received a text off each of them asking when I was travelling over .
I was working up until Christmas and my DC had various activities . All 3 of my relatives had finished for the period .
I offered to meet them at a point halfway to exchange gifts or as they were finished work , they could come to collect them . They declined both as the traffic is too busy / they have stuff to do .
My older sibling called me to give me 1.5hrs notice to meet them 15 minutes away on a day when DH was working , I was going out at a specific time and I had the two DC to bath and dress . I declined on the basis I would not be ready on time .
I did offer to meet them nearer to their way on a later date but they declined.
My father is now asking me to drive over for an hour tomorrow as my younger sibling is watching my nephew .
The problem is I much prefer going to my elder siblings house as my nephew has toys there and my DC will play for hours with nephew .
When they go to my fathers they are whining within 15 minutes to say they are bored .
My father has told me to to just take some toys . I know my DC and this will not keep them entertained for long.
My father also isn't keen on children so the whole thing is stressful for me - probably irrationally so.
I asked if he would meet me at the local soft play down the road from him so my DC and nephew can play and he said no, he wants to stay in .
I just don't see the point in driving for nearly two hours round trip to sit in their house for less than an hour when my DC are bored .
I'm not sure if the fact they won't compromise is getting my back up and making me be awkward about it ? This happens every birthday / Christmas .
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CorsaKan · 27/12/2015 16:20
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