To think that so many people are so ungrateful about presents

[Queenbean]

I am surprised by how many threads and comments there are on here today slagging off presents people have got. It's like a competition to say "what was the worst present you got". Some of these are presents that id like, or that I'd give, or that I don't love but wouldn't really be upset to receive. But either way, I'm not sure I could work up the effort to be annoyed that sil bought me candles, or that mil didn't give me a gift that was worth as much as my partner, or that someone bought me tickets to something that I haven't heard of.

Some of these people will have put loads of effort in to choosing these and then still people are moaning that they don't like them. Christmas really isn't worth moping around being disappointed by your lot - and what if you'd bought someone something and then saw them bitching online about not liking it? The first of these threads arrived at 9am on Christmas Day! What??!

Aibu to think that some mners should quit moaning and just be grateful for what they have?

[Merguez]

YANBU.

I started a thread about this this morning but it's dropped off the front page now....

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

Ynbu.

[GreatFuckability]

anyone buying you anything should be received with gratitutide.
my only caveat to that is if its given with a huge backstory of meaness or hostility or passive aggression or something. but in general if someone has given you a gift the only decent response is gratitude. The number of moans about gifts has left me a bit shocked tbh. watch those videos of kids in africa getting a few small items and crying with joy...and take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror.

[TabithaTwitchEye]

Well, my husband bought me a fleece. From Sainsburys. I am feeling quite ungrateful

[aquashiv]

Aibu to think that some mners should quit moaning and just be grateful for what they have?

YOu say that, but if you saw the God awful beige coat with the ill fitting fur round the collor you would understand why I swapped it for a kettle.

[Chillyegg]

Yep I agree not bitter at all about my 3 identical sets of Baylis and Harding at all

[WaitingForSnow]

Yanbu at all. And what greatfuckability said.

[feelingdizzy]

Usually yes,however my ex husband just popped round to see the kids,he gave me some deicer and a car air freshener.He gave the kids options hot chic sachets,catfood !!and some bags of peanuts.They are 13 and 14.
Methinks petrol station .

[Queenbean]

Ok fine, if you have something to genially be unhappy about (car freshener is terrible!) but it's the "my worst gift is a set of candles". So bloody what?! Burn them and enjoy them! Don't bitch about them!

[YouTheCat]

Do you have a cat, feelingdizzy?

[limon]

Any gift should be gratefully received. Give it tocharity if you don't like it and move on.

[Fairylea]

Yanbu.

Absolutely sick of people moaning about Bayliss and Harding toiletries and the like.. Yes it's cheapish and whatever but fgs it's a present! I am grateful for anything I receive and just pleased people thought of me. It's horrible when people are so grabby.

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

It's situational isn't it? If it's bought with no thought then I'd rather not receive a gift.

Peanuts from the garage for your kids I mean ffs!

But if it's just bad taste in someone's part then I find it hysterical. My ex SIL always bought me the most tasteless gifts and I used to enjoy each year seeing how she surpassed herself.

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

I don't live in the UK what's Bayliss and Harding?

[Fairylea]

Bayliss and Harding are a brand of shower gel / bath stuff etc. You can usually get quite big sets for about £5 around Christmas. I've seen so many people moaning about receiving them for Christmas, I don't think there's anything wrong with them at all.

[feelingdizzy]

exh has now left ,me and D's have just had a great laugh added to the gifts in the stocking were some items his father had obviously taken from the hotel he is staying in.Including a wrapped soap and an individual pack of Marmite.[confused

[GreatFuckability]

feelingdizzy...that falls into my caveat category for sure...I'm not sure anyone other than a cat would be grateful for catfood...

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

I just had a look. They are ok. If I receive smellies I can't use I just put them in the downstairs loo. Saves me buying extra soap!

[feelingdizzy]

Yes exh is a caveat in most normal human interactions

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

Feelingdizzy - did you marry Alan Partridge?

[GreatFuckability]

Lol, mine too....at least he just got me nothing and didn't insult me with animal food deicer would be handy though, I keep forgetting to buy any

[Queenbean]

It's situational isn't it? If it's bought with no thought then I'd rather not receive a gift.

But how do you know no thought has gone in to it? How do you (or anyone) know that the person doesn't genuinely think that you like candles / smellies / chocolate?

I think some people are hard to buy for and disagree with you - I think it's nicer to have a token gift rather than nothing if they're not sure what to buy

Petrol station gifts are obviously excluded here!

[WallyBantersJunkBox]

I am referring to petrol station gifts actually.

[waitingforsomething]

I agree. Dh bought me socks and a diary- I was really pleased as I need both! I bought him 2 books. We were both happy - Christmas is about a gesture for us, 90% of what's under the tree is for the kids anyway!

[Queenbean]

Ah sorry Wally! Our posts agree then