Disclaimer this is probably all in my head as nothing has actually been said by my mum but I'd like to know if I am taking advantage of her
My Mum is not incredibly well off but saves a lot of money to spend on birthdays and christmases for me my partner and 2 children. She is incredibly generous to the point where it actually makes me feel uncomfortable that she spent so much. We're talking at least 100 pounds per person per celebration and frequently more.
My partner and I on the other hand only ever spend a maximum of £30 per person in our immediate family. Excluding our kids who we spend more on. Most of the other family members stick to the reciprocal amount so I don't feel so guilty about spending so little on them comparatively to what my mum spends.
Basically today she's coming later and I'm already feeling awful because I know she'll be Laden with gifts and all she has from us is 2 small wrapped presents and a £20 voucher. I have put thought into the gifts if that means anything. I possibly could spend more on her but I don't feel like I should be obliged to as it's her choice to spend so much and I have before asked her not too. Also I spent more on her then I'd feel like I should also be spending more money on the other immediate family members so the costs would just escalate. Is £30 cheap to spend on gifts for my mum from the 4 of us? Her birthday is January so I spend the same then.
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Iambubbles86 · 25/12/2015 14:11
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