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To wish people would play with their kids and not just sit and photograph them

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UndramaticPause Fri 25-Dec-15 10:16:13

I'm without my dc this Christmas so feeling pretty shit. But Facebook is winding me up. Endless streams of photos of children with their new toys, posing with each individual present.

Ffs let the kids just rip them open and play!

Aibu or a grinch to wish people would put the cameras down for one day?

Seeyounearertime Fri 25-Dec-15 10:19:24

I understand.... But YABU. Sorry.

People want memories of their kids at Xmas, people also have relatives that don't love with the and Facebook is a great way for those distant relatives to feel a part of things.

Besides, you can turn off the computer and stay way from FB so really it is only having an impact because you're choosing to let it.

Whathaveilost Fri 25-Dec-15 10:19:59

Tit may be better if you went away from Facebook tbh.

Aeroflotgirl Fri 25-Dec-15 10:20:19

Yabvvu and grumpy, yes people do not only take photos, but they also play with their dc too, that is just one moment in time.

BrianButterfield Fri 25-Dec-15 10:20:25

A photo takes less than one second. They might have far flung relatives waiting to see if children liked their gifts. Don't see how it makes any difference to you.

zippey Fri 25-Dec-15 10:22:10

Yabu - I think people are able to do both. It's nice to have memories of your children's Christmases in years to come.

Enjolrass Fri 25-Dec-15 10:23:31

Yabu but I get why.

Mum always videoed and took photos Christmas morning.

It's not new. Except now we have social media. It's part of people's life.

I uploaded one photo today. Of ds with a gift from someone in France.

She rarely checks email so anything I want her to see I put on FB.

I am sorry you are having a shit day, but you can't stop people putting things in Facebook that Piss you off

Savagebeauty Fri 25-Dec-15 10:23:40

I've taken pics of my teens this morning. Havent put them on FB but that's just me.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions Fri 25-Dec-15 10:41:26

Kids don't generally play with their presents until they've unwrapped them all. They don't as you say rip the paper off and start playing with them. In my experience unwrapping is the best thing in Christmas morning and their not that interested until every present is unwrapped. And then depending on the age of the child their a lot more intersted in the wrapping and boxes than they are the toys.
What do you want the parents to do? Unwrapping takes long enough without them stopping to play with every toy as its unwrapped. Parents may well have unwrapped their presents the night before, as people have said it only takes a second to go hay Jim Bob show me your new tractor while I take a photo.

And I myself have checked on my social media this morning for pictures of my friends in Australia and my God daughter in Ireland. It would cost to mms me them. Nothing to Instagram them. Well the cost of the broadband but they have that anyway.

That said I do get that your missing your own children, is it your first Christmas without them? Is it a new thing? Because it is a bit grumpy to not want other people to do something perfectly normal.

ThumbWitchesAbroad Fri 25-Dec-15 10:57:10

It doesn't take long to photo them. I film mine opening presents from their UK relatives, so that the relatives can share in the fun of watching them open their presents - either that, or they wait until said relative is available on Skype and do it live for them.

The boys are used to this - they've done it every year - and have no problem with it. I also like it because it slows down the present opening, so they have to look at and appreciate each gift before ripping into the next one.

Sorry you're without your own DC though, that must be rough. Have more wine and cake and lots of chocolate. santafsmile

timelytess Fri 25-Dec-15 11:08:25

My dgd (4) loves a photo. I have known her ask to be photographed.

U2HasTheEdge Fri 25-Dec-15 11:14:50

It's Xmas

Don't let things wind you up. People do it their way, you do it yours.

I take photographs but that doesn't mean I don't play with them without taking photos as well.

MissFitt68 Fri 25-Dec-15 11:15:26

Yabu.... How do you know they arent 'playing with their kids'

abbsismyhero Fri 25-Dec-15 11:28:22

i take candid shots of the kids opening their gifts no posing here the good ones i might post on fb.....maybe

this time next year i will most likely be in your shoes and missing two of my kids i will be staying away from facebook

MTWTFSS Fri 25-Dec-15 11:33:36

My DS opens his present, 1 photo taken with him and gift, then I open it and we play. YABU.

Birdsgottafly Fri 25-Dec-15 11:48:15


I'm 47, so grew up and had my children pre mobile phones/internet.

However it's a part of life now.

I'm not well, I won't be eating a Christmas dinner and can only visit my DDs for a couple of hours.

My GD, 1 years old, may be asleep during that time.

It's been lovely to see her opening presents etc on FB and in private messages.

I also enjoy 'sharing' the Christmases of friends, when they post their pictures.

It's a shame that someone isn't doing the same for you.

BipBippadotta Fri 25-Dec-15 11:57:46

Oh, OP, I know it's hard to stay away from FB, particularly when it's one of the few ways you can still feel connected to people at what is a very lonely time of year given your situation. It can feel like an extra sort of exile or punishment.

But it will be over relatively soon - and it really will help you feel less sad / wound up to stay away until the bombardment dies down. When do you see your dc again?

MrsItsNoworNotatAll Fri 25-Dec-15 11:58:44

Yabu. They're are capturing a moment. Sorry you're pissed off like but if you're newsfeed is full of things that are annoying you it might be time to step away from it.

Etak15 Fri 25-Dec-15 12:06:29

I agree with you op I think some peoples whole life revolves around Facebook they will take pics with the pure intention of them being on Facebook, will comment about everything they do everywhere they go everything they buy. And if they've already uploaded all this mornings pics onto Facebook then they've been distracted from real life by Facebook.

TheLambShankRedemption Fri 25-Dec-15 12:12:22

Parents taking photos of their children opening presents could not be any more normal.

They open the lot first, then they start playing. By which time the photos are over and done with.


LagunaBubbles Fri 25-Dec-15 12:14:02

Yabu. It also takes a few seconds to upload pictures to FB, hardly a "distraction" from real life. hmm

seasidesally Fri 25-Dec-15 12:24:07

I've taken pics of my teens this morning. Havent put them on FB but that's just me.

this 100%

i understand a photo on there for a far flung relative but when i was last on FB 2 yrs ago it was endless photos to brag and boast nothing else,countless running commentary of the whole day,is that what the op means

it was totally ott (look at me type of thing)

hence why i have been FB free for 2yrs

happy Christmas op,and turn the bloomin FB off grin

Sparklingbrook Fri 25-Dec-15 12:51:22

When the boys were little and way before FB we photographed the whole unwrapping debacle every single Christmas Day. We may have emailed the odd pic to a relative or two with a thank you.

They are teens now and we haven't done it for years. I have never once looked at the past pictures. They are all on a disc but couldn't find them in a hurry.

I don't have FB, it's not really my thing.

U2HasTheEdge Fri 25-Dec-15 13:37:14

I posted a photo of my two younger one's huge pile of presents and my 14 year olds tiny pile of about three things for a laugh on FB, tagging him saying how hard done by he is (he isn't, he just got more expensive things)

It wasn't to brag, I thought it was funny.

MissFitt68 Fri 25-Dec-15 14:35:55

My dd just kicked off ( lightheartedly) that the dinner on her plate wasn't regimented enough..... She need the pic for snapchat/social media grin had to be perfect

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