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Iliketoparrty Thu 24-Dec-15 19:50:48

Last night I watched a friends 9month old as she was going out. I know she wouldn't be back until late 3/4am so agreed to stay at her house over night.

Friend usually cosleeps with baby but I didn't feel comfortable with doing so, so I agreed to sleep in the same room as the baby instead. Everything went fine, the baby slept through and was easy.

This morning I was telling friend about how we got on, baby eating sleeping etc when she said "I know I watched you on the baby monitor from my phone" I was hmmconfused. She then said " I didn't know you have a tattoo". I have one on my hip.

I didn't know she had a web enabled baby monitor and would never had slept in her room had I known. I'm a wriggly sleeper and can often kick off blankets and tussle my clothes.

I said to her I thought it was odd she was watching and that she could see me as well as the baby. I would have thought the camera would focus on the baby.

She said no I like to watch whoever is looking after baby as well. She said she has a few other cameras around the house as well "just encase".

I told her I didn't like being watched and I wouldn't babysit at her house anymore.

She said IWBU as this is " what any mummy would do"

Really? AIBU?

AllChangeLife Thu 24-Dec-15 19:52:34

That is fucking odd. How dare she do that and not tell you!

GabiSolis Thu 24-Dec-15 19:53:19

Absolutely unacceptable for her to do this without telling you. Friendship would be over for me tbh.

AnchorDownDeepBreath Thu 24-Dec-15 19:53:22

That is really creepy.

AllChangeLife Thu 24-Dec-15 19:53:29

Ps. Not any mummy would do this. In case you didn't get that from the fucking odd bit ;-)

VinylScratch Thu 24-Dec-15 19:53:55

She is a nutjob.

yorkshapudding Thu 24-Dec-15 19:54:30

YANBU. This is not "what any mummy would do" and, in your position I would feel extremely uncomfortable.

Redglitter Thu 24-Dec-15 19:54:42

That's so out of order. Most definitely not normal. What a shocking invasion of your privacy. I wouldn't step foot in hee house again

BadlyBehavedShoppingTrolley Thu 24-Dec-15 19:55:27

Whoaaah. Fucking odd as hell. I'd be livid.

Fugghetaboutit Thu 24-Dec-15 19:57:04

Creepy as hell! She should've told you beforehand and given you a choice. I would feel violated

ExasperatedAlmostAlways Thu 24-Dec-15 19:57:13

Weird. Does she have anxiety problems?

goodnightdarthvader1 Thu 24-Dec-15 19:57:22

She should have told you before hand if she wanted to do that, and let you decide if you were comfortable being watched. Creepy as fuck.

FlatOnTheHill Thu 24-Dec-15 19:57:29

Bloody hell. You joking. I would find that odd to tell you after you have babysat. She could have mentioned it before. Im sure some posters will say something along the lines of. If you have nothing to hide whats the problem!
I wouldnt babysit again. Would feel really uncomfortable being watched. How long have you known friend? Are you close?

MrsWembley Thu 24-Dec-15 19:58:00

Jesus Christ, that's appalling! shock

I would be livid if a friend thought that would be okay with me!! What a horrible invasion of privacy!!! Tell her no, it's not what any mummy would do, at all!!

DrRanjsRightEyebrow Thu 24-Dec-15 19:58:12

Wow. That's batshit crazy. I would be deeply uncomfortable with that and can't believe she thinks that's normal! Fair enough if it's just on the crib but to actually say she likes to watch the sitter? Creepy as fuck.

Needtobebetter Thu 24-Dec-15 19:58:59

The camera thing is weird, the not telling you is unforgivable. You should have been given the choice but she's behaved as if she wanted to catch you out. I'd be leaving that friendship behind and warning any other friends who might end up babysitting.

The is absolutely not what any mummy would do, I have 2 DC and this has never even crossed my mind.

Weirdo. Run for the hills.

ExasperatedAlmostAlways Thu 24-Dec-15 19:59:49

Also she is clearly saying she doesn't trust you so is keeping an eye on you.

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 24-Dec-15 20:00:24

Deeply weird. Fine to have a baby cam, not fine not to tell someone in your house. I wouldn't be friends any more.

IguanaTail Thu 24-Dec-15 20:02:11

Appalling!! Creepy as hell.

Windingstreamswithoutends Thu 24-Dec-15 20:03:39

Utterly utterly weird.

MrFMercury Thu 24-Dec-15 20:06:03

She obviously trusts you you to look after her child for quite a long time or she doesn't. It sounds horribly invasive and it'd be the end of the friendship.

LeaLeander Thu 24-Dec-15 20:08:29

Deal breaker, friendship breaker.

OddSocksHighHeels Thu 24-Dec-15 20:10:22

Creepy. As. Fuck.

That's not acceptable at all.

Iliketoparrty Thu 24-Dec-15 20:10:24

She has previously had issues with letting people look after the baby and when baby was first born she would let anyone (even the father hold the baby).

I do get her needing to male sure baby is ok. My DS when she had her 1st would get me to text a photo of my niece when she was sleeping so I kind of get it...

I'm not happy about being watched without my knowledge or consent. What did she think I would do to her child? fangry

I'm ment to be babysitting next week but I'm not sure I want to even if it is at my house. She obviously doesn't trust me.fsad

ThomasRichard Thu 24-Dec-15 20:11:25

No, that is absolutely unacceptable. She should at the very least have told you so that you could get changed in private and worn pyjamas!

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