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To be a bit sad that very few of my friends remembered my sons birthday?

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dontpokethebear Thu 24-Dec-15 18:58:10

I know it's Christmas Eve and I'm sure everyone is really, really busy trying to get ready for tomorrow. I just can't help feeling a bit sad that only one or two of my friends remembered my 3 year olds birthday. Even a text would have been nice.
Fortunately I have lovely in laws and my son has had a fun day at home with me, dh and 3 yr olds siblings.
I think it annoys me because I know a few friends that would go nc if I dare forgot their kids birthdays fhmm

Oysterbabe Thu 24-Dec-15 19:01:14

Tbh I struggle to remember family birthdays let alone friends' kids.

balletgirlmum Thu 24-Dec-15 19:01:40

I wouldn't know the birthdays of any of my friends children unless I wS invited to a party.

KaraokeQueenOfTheNorth Thu 24-Dec-15 19:02:45

If yur friends a actions don't match their expectations then that is a bit rubbish. But personally I don't expect my friends to remember my kids' birthdays unless ive invited them to a party or something.

Hope you have had a lovely day though! Happy Birthday to your son smile

dementedpixie Thu 24-Dec-15 19:02:51

I don't know the birthdays of children of friends unless there is a party to remind us

Stickerrocks Thu 24-Dec-15 19:03:29

Unfortunately you've just discovered that other people's children don't feature very highly on the radar. You've just reminded me that it's my friend's DDs birthday today, but I have no idea how old she is. Off to hit FB, but (in the meantime) it sounds as though you had a lovely family day (which is all that matters at the end of the day).

ElfOnTheBoozeShelf Thu 24-Dec-15 19:03:41

I don't remember friends kids birthdays, or very very few of them. Not because I don't care about them, but because I just don't remember. Neither do I expect them to remember my DC birthdays.

counthedays Thu 24-Dec-15 19:04:38

I haven't a clue when any of my friends children's birthdays are. I can't even remember the dates of my nephews abd nieces birthdays, just the months. I think you're being a bit silly, it's important to you but I'm afraid it's really not on anyone else's radar

Goingtobeawesome Thu 24-Dec-15 19:05:54

YANBU. I send tonnes of cards every year. My children have never received a single birthday card from dhs cousins. Nor do we receive one. It grates a bit but sometimes people just don't do things we do. Some friends send cards. Always the same ones who do and the same who don't. I send everyone I know a card.

Happy birthday LittleBear🎂

TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot Thu 24-Dec-15 19:08:07

Are they close to your DS? Do th'ey spend a lot of time with him? Will he know or care that they haven't acknowledged his Birthday?

If so YANBU. Otherwise YABU

dontpokethebear Thu 24-Dec-15 19:12:03

Thanks Going fsmile

When I say friends I mean people who I see on an at least weekly basis.
Oh well fsad

queenofthepirates Thu 24-Dec-15 19:20:33

Well you'll just have to remind them! I send round a very blatant email to Godparents asking if they want to know what DD wants for her 5th birthday on XX date (nudge, wink).

dontpokethebear Thu 24-Dec-15 19:20:53

No, he won't realise or care. I do see your point.

dontpokethebear Thu 24-Dec-15 19:21:30

I don't expect presents! Just an acknowledgment!

MoMoTy Thu 24-Dec-15 19:22:11

Yabu, I'm pretty sure on Christmas Eve they would have other things to think of than a friend's child's birthday, or any other day for that matter.

PuppyMonkey Thu 24-Dec-15 19:23:23

It's my brother's birthday on Christmas Day and I very rarely remember blush

maria543 Thu 24-Dec-15 19:33:06

I'm afraid people prioritise their own Christmas over other people's birthdays at this time of year. See message from MoMoTy above.

I sympathise. Dd's birthday is Boxing Day. Same problem. Am hoping that as she hits her teenage years it will come into its own as her friends become able to exercise free will and come ice-skating with her or something.

diddl Thu 24-Dec-15 19:34:37

I would have thought that it would be an easy birthday to remember tbh.

But would it mean anything to your son if your friends wished him happy birthday iyswim?

MaisieDotes Thu 24-Dec-15 19:38:02

I haven't a clue when anyone's birthday is and I don't expect anyone outside my immediate family to remember either mine or the DC's.

If there's a party then of course I buy presents etc but otherwise no.

LeaLeander Thu 24-Dec-15 19:40:54

I think birthdays and anniversaries are nuclear-family things. I don't know any of my friends' kids' birth dates, come to think of it I don't know when my brother-in-law's birthday is and I'm sure he hasn't a clue when mine is.

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt Thu 24-Dec-15 19:46:39

I'm going against the grain here, but I can understand you being disappointed. I make an effort to remember my good friends kiddies birthdays by marking them in a calendar. I do it because they're good friends.

HPsauciness Thu 24-Dec-15 19:48:55

For the first couple of years we remembered, after that it's nuclear family only really for birthdays, or at least granny/grandpa is as far as it goes. I don't know any of my friends' childrens' birthdays and they don't send to mine (aged 10 upwards)/

niceupthedance Thu 24-Dec-15 19:52:33

It's my dc's birthday today, gets overlooked by many who are busy with Xmas. I just put a reminder on Facebook then whoever wants to wish happy birthday can do.

BadlyBehavedShoppingTrolley Thu 24-Dec-15 19:53:05

I don't make a fuss over other children's birthdays and I don't expect them to make a fuss over mine. That's what families are for.

It sounds a bit bah humbug but it can just get completely out of hand otherwise, by the time you've got two or three kids and lots of mum friends and you are all expected to buy something for one another and one another's children - it just gets exhausting and stupidly expensive. And once you start it's awkward to stop, so it's better to just not start in the first place.

Boomingmarvellous Thu 24-Dec-15 19:53:46

sorry. YAB a bit U. Its Christmas eve and everyone has been tearing around trying to get it all ready for their own children. I wouldn't expect friends to remember unless it was a party occasion.

feel sorry for your son having his birthday on Christmas eve. A lifetime of doubled up presents looms.

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