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WorkingClassHeroine Thu 24-Dec-15 15:14:09

Apologies in advance if this is long and boringly trivial.

I work part time for an online shop. We use a group message to communicate - all of us are party to all communications.

I've been 'allowed' to work partly from home over Christmas due to no childcare. I also have to go in once DP is home and do a few hours at night, usually getting home around 10ish. I don't know when DP will get home tonight (he drives for a living so is at the mercy of the traffic) but I'll be expected to make up some hours tonight, regardless of what time DP gets home.

One of my duties is to order supplies. We are running low on some of those supplies, as I've only been in during the evenings and not using those supplies I didn't know we were low. I should have checked when I was in and forgot, so I did slip up there. In relation to this matter, Boss Man messages me. Here is the exchange (on a public thread, remember):

BM: 'are we low on [thing I won't name in case it outs the company]

Me: 'I can't see from here lol, I thought we were ok and wasn't made aware we needed any'. - Lighthearted tone, 'lol' and the odd smiley are considered acceptable for group messages.

BM: 'Our customers don't know you're at home this week. Please order more [thing] as our customers are waiting'.

This got my back up. He could have worded that any other way such as 'Please remember to keep an eye on this in future' or similar and I would have just put 'Will do, I've made a note, sorry about that' - all would have been fine.

So I felt I was placed in a position to defend myself

Me: 'No, our customers don't but the other staff do and they're the ones using the [thing. Please send me the link to order and I'll do it now'

I then get a call from BM berating me some more for saying things on a public channel which may make my colleagues feel 'upset'. I'm passed giving much of a shit about it to be honest. He can hide behind the 'morale of the team' as much as he likes, but I won't be spoken to like a naughty school girl and not respond in kind. As for 'team morale', this is the guy who fired a staff member that I was standing right next to, as the conversation began with him addressing both of us and then switching straight away to how he was so very generously going to put the other person on reduced hours instead of just sacking them straight away.

I'm minded to tell him DP is going to be home very, very late, and I'm therefore not available to come in to sit in a dingy warehouse until midnight on Christmas fucking Eve. Or am I being a prick?

Eebahgum Thu 24-Dec-15 15:16:48

Depends on how badly you need the job.

DropYourSword Thu 24-Dec-15 15:17:46

I actually think you should have swallowed your pride on this one and not retaliated as you did. It doesnt sound to me like he was out of line saying what he did, and I think you were a touch snarky in your reply.

WorkingClassHeroine Thu 24-Dec-15 15:19:15

Before I had the job, we made ends meet with very little to spare - but nobody went hungry and the bills were paid.

I also feel fairly sure I'd get another job in due course. I'd also be able to keep this off my CV, as I've not been asked to sign a contract or received a payslip since I started in late October.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall Thu 24-Dec-15 15:19:23

do you mean youve slagged the boss/company off on facebook?

WorkingClassHeroine Thu 24-Dec-15 15:20:26

I was snarky. But he really should have expected a reaction. It is possible to pull a staff member up when they make an error without belittling them.

WorkingClassHeroine Thu 24-Dec-15 15:20:59

Not facebook, it's a message app - the group members are back office staff

PenelopePitstops Thu 24-Dec-15 15:23:41

I think you sound a bit unreasonable. His message was fine and you reacted badly.

Vixxfacee Thu 24-Dec-15 15:23:42

He wasn't rude.
He's the boss.
He's doing you a favour letting you work from home.
Your colleagues should have told you it was running low but at the same time it's your job to monitor it.

WorkingClassHeroine Thu 24-Dec-15 15:25:37

Thanks for the input. It seems I'm unreasonable.

Unrepentant though.

GissASquizz Thu 24-Dec-15 15:27:08

Yeah, I think you reacted badly.

SevenOfNineTrue Thu 24-Dec-15 15:27:50

YABU IMO. You admit it is your job to monitor the supplies and you forgot to check and reorder. However, instead of simply admitting this and rectifying it straight away, you blame your colleagues for not alerting you. That is not fair on them and it is no wonder your boss was annoyed.

WickedWax Thu 24-Dec-15 15:29:56

You were out of order and your last message back doesn't even make sense as a reply to his previous message (if you've copied them word for word).

Sparkletastic Thu 24-Dec-15 15:30:38

I think you were out of order and your boss is expressing mild frustration.

WorkingClassHeroine Thu 24-Dec-15 15:30:40

Unanimous so far...

marysafairy Thu 24-Dec-15 15:32:33

Very u,

Your defensive response makes you look bad. Had you just said, 'yes, I'm on it's to his initial 'order' it would have made you look professional, and not petty about 'pride'. He flagged something that was needed, and instead of doing your job, you forced him to defend the rest of the staff to you. Strange when you have such a perk of being able to work from home, one that many people would love.

Amazemedontbeacunt Thu 24-Dec-15 15:34:17

Your reply to his original message was unreasonable.

PlaymobilPirate Thu 24-Dec-15 15:35:21

He's your boss. You haven't fulfilled part of your duties if stuff hasn't been ordered. It's not up to colleagues to keep you up to date if you've been given the privilege of working from home.

You should have been checking, via the app if necessary, that stocks were ok.

His message was fine imho.

hauntedhenry Thu 24-Dec-15 15:37:15

Of course yabu. You didn't do something and your boss pulled you up on it.

marysafairy Thu 24-Dec-15 15:39:35

Bmp: stocks of x are low

Op: I'm on it

Job done- but you created drama where there wasn't any.

Maybe it is crap going in on Xmas eve so you were on a short fuse with work, but it sounds like you don't want the job as you are already calculating you can get by without it

lougle Thu 24-Dec-15 15:41:57

You're VU. You've been asked to do something and you've refused. You've forced your boss to pull rank.

NotMeNotYouNotAnyone Thu 24-Dec-15 15:46:10

Yabu. But tbh they might well be better of without you anyway

VimFuego101 Thu 24-Dec-15 15:47:06

YABU - your boss did you a favour allowing you to work from home (which in most companies you are not allowed to do if you have children at home with you, because you won't be focused on work). You didn't do your job, he reminded you. If you want to have the option of working from home in future then I would apologise, order the item and make sure you keep tabs on stock levels in future.

Goingtobeawesome Thu 24-Dec-15 15:50:16

On your OP I think you are completely over reacting.

WorkingClassHeroine Thu 24-Dec-15 15:50:31

Thanks again everyone, I've just apologised to the team. Still unhappy about BM's approach, there's bound to be an air-clearing discussion when I see him next.

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