I met up with some friends for coffee yesterday. One of them has 3 adult children (oldest son, about 30, middle son late 20s, youngest daughter age 20 & a student).
She had been really looking forward to Christmas as her middle son just got engaged and was due to turn up today and stay until Sunday with his fiancee. Her oldest son has a steady partner who doesn't have much family so up until now she has always had all her children home for Christmas every year.
Anyway - middle son, who just got engaged - had called from the airport to say that he & fiancee had changed their plans. She was so excited about getting engaged that they were flying to her home town (we're in the US, and we're talking long travelling distances) to see her parents and old school friends to show off her ring etc. They would still be with my friends on Christmas day, but would be arriving in the afternoon and then staying a bit longer.
My friend sent them a text saying how upset she was - she and her 20 year old daughter were both crying - and that they felt they'd been put in second place.
Now. Changing Christmas plans this close is pretty inconsiderate so I can see why she's annoyed. But the comment about being put second made me wince a little. In spite of them being pretty thoughtless about suddenly switching around Christmas, when someone's just got engaged don't you smile sweetly and say nice things? Any other issues can be resolved later (if need be) rather than a load of texts which must surely be lessening the joy of the engagement.
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To think that my friend is in danger of being one of those MIL?
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kickassangel · 23/12/2015 15:55
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