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To be slightly upset I don't get invited round to my friends

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lovelynannytobe Tue 22-Dec-15 21:32:26

I have a group of friends that I think I'm quite close to. We see each other at school pick ups and sometimes meet socially in the evenings. But recently I realised they all meet up together during the day at weekends either in each other houses or at outings with the kids. I never get invited to those things with my kids. Admittedly I have had a few glasses of wine this evening and when I thought about it I had a little cry. All my kids get on with theirs ... I'm just thinking if it's just me ... are they my friends or just acquaintances sad

Supermanspants Tue 22-Dec-15 21:54:14

Have you suggested meeting up at the weekend?

Flyonthewindscreen Tue 22-Dec-15 21:56:14

YANBU for feeling upset. Do you have a DH that doesn't get on with theirs?

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe Tue 22-Dec-15 21:56:36

Do you invite them to yours? (yes, even if your house is quite small)

TheSecondViola Tue 22-Dec-15 21:59:48

There's bound to be a reason. Somebody invited someone and they invited back etc. Have you asked anyone to yours? I fiand often when people are surprised at not being asked to things they have never taken the initiative for themselves.

CFSsucks Tue 22-Dec-15 22:01:24

I have this OP, I was pretty friendly with 2 mums at school, another came back who I knew before, I have seen that they are doing all sorts together, not once have I ever been invited. My child gets on with theirs, 2 more so but I think that his mother could be interfering there. It hurts so I've down graded them to acquaintances and don't really socialise with them much, I've concentrated on a couple of others and don't feel bad about not Including everyone else whereas I would have felt obliged to before.

Aeroflotgirl Tue 22-Dec-15 22:03:30

That is shit. Why not ask them what they are doing at the weekend, if they are meeting ask to join them.

mummydarkling Tue 22-Dec-15 22:03:45

Look I have no particular wisdom to offer. Just to say I have been there too and (tomorrow my youngest turns 16) it hurt a lot at the time but now I have new friends and those people do not mean so much to me. If you can do not allow them to upset you. Accept the school gate friendliness and realise that might be all it is. Perhaps it is just kids of a similar age that you have in common. Do they share your values? They may have a perception that you are busy at the weekend. You know who you are and be kind to yourself. Schools out have a great day with the kids tomorrow. Your revenge will be having fun without them. Un-mumsnetty hugs!

unimaginativename13 Tue 22-Dec-15 22:04:05

This happens all the time in my group of friends just due to if we all had to do everything together all the time we would never see each other.

Have you ever turned down invites or complained you can't afford to do anything?

amarmai Tue 22-Dec-15 22:29:50

usually there is 1 person who is jealous,envious, does not like you ,needs to exclude etc who is behind this sort of schoolyard behaviour. If it was not you , it wd be someone else and the others are letting her get away with it, so it wont be them. Find more mature friends ,op.

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