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Who should pay parking fine...WWYD?

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VelvetSpoon Tue 22-Dec-15 20:25:29

I should start by saying I don't drive - or can't drive, or whatever the appropriate expression is on MN. I have a car, but no driving licence. I've taken tests and failed in the past, I intend to try again in the New Year.

So if I travel anywhere by car, it's mostly with my boyfriend in his car (him driving, obviously).

Recently, we were on our way out in the morning, and gave my DS a lift to school (it's only a 10 min walk, but as we were passing the school anyway it made sense to give him a lift). So dropped him off, and carried on our journey. We dropped him in a small inlet/layby (it's only just about the length of a car). Outside the layby ie on the edge of the road, are hazard markings.

You've probably guessed what's coming next - when bf's car pulled up, it wasn't quite fully in the layby, and one of his offside wheels was just touching the hazards for the 15 seconds we stopped. This was all caught by one of those camera cars - so it's quite clear evidence and unlikely any appeal would work (even though he was barely touching the markings, and we only stopped for a short time).

So there's a fine to pay. Bf and I don't live together, separate finances. He's not working at present (taking a few months off after a contract ended), and earlier this month had to fork out a few hundred pounds after some vandalism to his car. I am working, and generally in a better financial position (although things are a bit tight this month due to Xmas and that I've just spent nearly £2000 on having work done at my's his car, but he was doing me a favour dropping off DS...

So taking all that into account, who in your view should pay? I've already almost certainly decided in my own mind, just interested in some other opinions.

JemimaHighway Tue 22-Dec-15 20:28:28


RedSoloCup Tue 22-Dec-15 20:28:43

Split it....

V awkward is this London I've not heard of the camera parking thingies?

ProudAS Tue 22-Dec-15 20:28:57

Your BF was driving - he's the one who didn't park legally - might like to think about what's best for your relationship though.

TeenAndTween Tue 22-Dec-15 20:29:08

you should pay

JenniferYellowHat1980 Tue 22-Dec-15 20:29:12

I think I would appeal it.

RedSoloCup Tue 22-Dec-15 20:30:27

Interesting link

ilovesooty Tue 22-Dec-15 20:30:34

He's responsible for adhering to traffic regulations but I think it would be nice if you offered to pay half.

TheBunnyOfDoom Tue 22-Dec-15 20:30:38

Driver should pay.

RiverTam Tue 22-Dec-15 20:30:44

You should or you should split it.

EponasWildDaughter Tue 22-Dec-15 20:31:31

You should pay IMO.

RedSoloCup Tue 22-Dec-15 20:31:45

Doesn't sound enforceable to me?

tibbawyrots Tue 22-Dec-15 20:32:11

I would offer to pay it - take a chance 🌝

lighteningirl Tue 22-Dec-15 20:32:13

You should pay but he's a twunt if he lets you

Nonidentifyingnc Tue 22-Dec-15 20:33:20

I want to say him - as the driver it is his responsibility to drive and park legally. You didn't make him park there! Otoh, he was doing you a favour and you can afford it more than him, so on balance I think you should offer.
have splinters in my arse from sitting on the fence

Goingtobeawesome Tue 22-Dec-15 20:34:01

Obviously he should as he was the driver but depending on whether he is a nice bloke or a twat, go halves?

Meow75 Tue 22-Dec-15 20:34:14

When I was a volunteer driver during the London 2012Olympics, it was made BLATANTLY clear to us that any driving violations were down to us and LOCOG would in no way pay any fines or back up a driver that decided to act outside the laws of the road. You didn't MAKE him stop incorrectly, but to be kind I MIGHT offer to pay half. Depending on his attitude.

balletgirlmum Tue 22-Dec-15 20:34:33

He should, you had no control over how the car pulled up.

Nonidentifyingnc Tue 22-Dec-15 20:34:57

I do think that if he was my bf and I offered and he took me up on it, I would think less of him. Although he might think less of you for not offering.

rainbowstardrops Tue 22-Dec-15 20:37:10

Wow, that's a tricky one! On one hand, it was your partner driving and therefore his responsibility as to how he drove/parked but on the other hand, he was taking your child to school.

That doesn't help does it?!!!!

If he'd been caught speeding then I guess I'd say he should pay but as it was your child and you are financially better off then I think I'd say to go halves.

kilmuir Tue 22-Dec-15 20:38:22

he was the one in control of car, his fault. Why are you responsible?

MaidOfStars Tue 22-Dec-15 20:41:17

His fault, he should pay. Nice if you offered to split it, but not at all an obligation on your part. I am baffled at the idea it could be anything other than his responsibility.

MaidOfStars Tue 22-Dec-15 20:42:21

Actually, if you told him to 'pull over there, it will be alright for one minute', maybe you become responsible (morally, not legally).

HaPPy8 Tue 22-Dec-15 20:44:07

I think you should pay.

LaLyra Tue 22-Dec-15 20:44:10

I'd offer to pay half since he was doing you a favour, but really it's his responsibility. It wouldn't be down to you to pay a speeding fine he'd got outside the school.

Unless, was your idea to drop your DS there? If so definatley half.

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