AIBU to not collect DH from the airport later

(47 Posts)
chanelfreak Mon 21-Dec-15 16:39:34

I need the wisdom of MNetters! - my DH was away visiting family at the weekend and is arriving back to an airport 2.5hrs from our house later on tonight. He doesn't drive and normally I collect him, meaning we get back to our house at around half past midnight.

However, I had my portacath rinsed today and I feel completely ill and wobbly after it (most squeamish woman on the planet) AND I have work tomorrow (DH does not) so AIBU to ask him to get a bus home instead? It would mean he doesn't get home til 3am, so I feel a bit a lot guilty for suggesting it.

BiddyPop Mon 21-Dec-15 16:44:37

YANBU

Agrestic Mon 21-Dec-15 16:45:04

Portacath?

I'm gunna say yanbu. But I'd do it as I'd want him to do it for me...

Dipankrispaneven Mon 21-Dec-15 16:46:16

5 hours driving when you're feeling wobbly and have to work tomorrow? Fuck. That. The bus it is.

chanelfreak Mon 21-Dec-15 16:47:37

Sorry Agrestic it's a thingy that is under my skin in my chest that was used for chemo and is currently used for blood tests and that (crap veins). It needs to get flushed every 6 weeks and without fail, I always feel crappy afterwards.

Supermanspants Mon 21-Dec-15 16:48:26

YAB a bit U but I can understand why you don't want to. Are there even buses that run at that time?

PUGaLUGS Mon 21-Dec-15 16:50:26

Under the circumstances you have described, he needs to get the bus.

DoreenLethal Mon 21-Dec-15 16:50:53

Is there any train system running from the airport to anywhere near home?

theycallmemellojello Mon 21-Dec-15 16:50:54

YANBU - would he even want you to pick him up in the circumstances? Have an early night. smile

Agrestic Mon 21-Dec-15 16:51:40

Bless you, I winced as I read that. No wonder you're feeling poorly. I was imagining it was something dental blush

Deffo yanbu! Go to bed with a brew and he can hop on the bus.

chanelfreak Mon 21-Dec-15 16:56:53

Thanks ladies - I think I will ask him to get the bus. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I caused a crash or something and I really am feeling crappy sad

mintoil Mon 21-Dec-15 17:02:14

What about a train? Or can he stay over in a hotel and come back in the morning?

If you feel shitty please do stay at home. flowers

Gruntfuttock Mon 21-Dec-15 17:05:29

I think him staying in a hotel for the night is a very good idea.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn Mon 21-Dec-15 17:14:54

I think staying in a hotel is the best idea.

EweAreHere Mon 21-Dec-15 17:37:56

You shouldn't be driving if you're feeling shaky and unwell.

Catching the bus is not a hardship.

yorkshapudding Mon 21-Dec-15 17:40:01

It doesn't sound as though you would be safe to drive. I'm sure your DH would rather be inconvenienced and lose some sleep than have you putting yourself at risk. Ask him to get the bus (he can always catch up on sleep tomorrow if he's not working) or if he's really shattered stay in a hotel.

whois Mon 21-Dec-15 18:41:21

is arriving back to an airport 2.5hrs from our house

5hour drive whne you feel wobbly? No fucking way.

He is an adult I assume, and perfectly capable of managing a bus, or staying over and getting a train home in the morning?

Can't believe you happily drive FIVE hours to pick him up normally TBH.

LaLyra Mon 21-Dec-15 18:46:36

You shouldn't be driving when you feel wobbly. It's not fair on either or you, or anyone else on the road, to take that risk just to collect someone from an airport when there are bus options.

CalleighDoodle Mon 21-Dec-15 18:48:48

Wouldnt it be against the law to drive knowingly unwell? (If it isnt go with that anyway).

Sirzy Mon 21-Dec-15 18:50:03

Do you have any family or friends who could get him?

Otherwise the hotel suggestion is probably a good idea.

WhereYouLeftIt Mon 21-Dec-15 19:02:54

"I feel completely ill and wobbly"
You are in no fit state to drive to the shops never mind a five hours round trip. I mean this kindly, but I really don't want you on the roads that I might be on - it's not safe!

And surely he wouldn't want you to drive in this state either?

bringmelaughter Mon 21-Dec-15 19:04:54

Have you discussed with your medical team feeling unwell after having your portacath flushed? It's unusual for port flushing to make you feel unwell.

PestoFestivio Mon 21-Dec-15 19:14:12

FFS he need to book a Premier Inn or equivalent for the night and then make his own way home the next morning. Sounds like you have really been through it and a 5 hour return trip, having to concentrate on all those nutty Christmas drivers is the very last thing you should be doing.

flowers

TartanBirdFeeder Mon 21-Dec-15 19:15:00

In the nicest possible way, you are being unreasonable really, I mean presumably you knew in advance that you'd be having your portacath rinsed today and that you had to work tomorrow. However, you are being understandably unreasonable. He should have booked a hotel or been prepared to get a bus.

expatinscotland Mon 21-Dec-15 19:15:40

Don't drive!

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