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Aibu to wonder if this is typical London?

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teeththief Sun 20-Dec-15 23:16:21

I recently went to London with my 8 year old. We were on the tubes and an employee appeared on the tube with a man who was obviously blind. The employee asked loudly if anyone was willing to give up their seat for the man. The only person who didn't look away and stood up immediately giving their seat away was my 8 year old! Is this normal behaviour in London or did we just hit a bad time?

CwtchMeQuick Sun 20-Dec-15 23:18:58

I think you hit a bad time.
In my experience Londoners are always extremely helpful. I rarely have to struggle alone with my toddler/pushchair.

How lovely of your 8 year old though!

LittleLionMansMummy Sun 20-Dec-15 23:19:23

I think you hit a bad time. And I say that as someone who commutes there regularly but isn't a huge fan of the city. I've seen people give up their seats for other people fairly regularly.

Witchend Sun 20-Dec-15 23:21:01

Don't think it's typical either. I've never had to ask for help and people have often give up seats without anything being said.

hesterton Sun 20-Dec-15 23:22:04

Your little chap probably jumped up and created a hurricane of sighs of relief from tired commuters. I'm sure someone else would have got up if he hadn't been there first. Good lad.

BackInTheRealWorld Sun 20-Dec-15 23:22:29

Well done to your kid. Why didn't you stand up, out of interest?

TheBestChocolateIsFree Sun 20-Dec-15 23:24:00

He was definitely unlucky.

teeththief Sun 20-Dec-15 23:24:29

It's good to hear we just hit a bad time. Something else happened to make me think London was rubbish but I also had something positive happen help wise. My children love London and want to go all the time. This experience really put me off strangely

teeththief Sun 20-Dec-15 23:25:51

backintherealworld I was already stood up at the other end of the carriage!

hibbleddible Sun 20-Dec-15 23:29:51

It varies, people are generally helpful, but when pregnant I found that people avoided eye contact with me and was often left standing. I had excruciating SPD, and asked once for a seat. After that I took cabs/drove to avoid the embarrassment.

dodobookends Sun 20-Dec-15 23:31:22

Many of the people on the train might have been foreign visitors whose grasp of the English language wasn't quite up to understanding what the employee was asking, I suppose. Every day is different in London.

The last time dd and I were on the tube we struck up a conversation with half a dozen Scots on their way back to Glasgow, and who were brilliant fun and chatty.

redstrawberry10 Sun 20-Dec-15 23:33:34

that really surprises. i find people usually give up their seat for people less able to stand.

TiredButFineODFOJ Sun 20-Dec-15 23:33:39

A blind man used to travel on my commute regularly, assisted by a member of staff. Rarely was it that they had to ask someone to give up a seat. And if the staff member failed to meet him at the other end we always helped him off.
As a Londoner I'd blame the events you saw on tourists and out of towners using the tube at the weekend tbh!

Riderontheswarm Sun 20-Dec-15 23:34:28

I would say that was fairly typical of London.

teeththief Sun 20-Dec-15 23:35:52

dodobookends my DC love people watching and chatting to people. My DD always seems to come home with a pocketful of items from people and now takes little trinkets in her pockets which might strike up a conversation with other children! This one thing really has left a sour taste in my mouth but I guess, as someone else said, other commuters may not have understood what was being asked

WorraLiberty Sun 20-Dec-15 23:36:00

I've lived here all my life and it's not even remotely typical.

WorraLiberty Sun 20-Dec-15 23:37:20

Also, how long did your 8 year old take to give up their seat?

Crazybaglady Sun 20-Dec-15 23:37:37

If i were to guess i would say you were on the jubilee line. I used to experience a right wretched bunch when i was commuting on crutches 😫

potap123 Sun 20-Dec-15 23:38:29

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MaryPoppinsPenguins Sun 20-Dec-15 23:39:01

I would say it definitely isn't typical of London.... I live just on the outskirts and take the tube a lot, and when pregnant, or once with crutches I most often got a seat, and was always offered if businessmen (for example) spotted me and were seated.

My DH gets the tube every day and usually gives up his seat if he gets one... Last week he went to work feeling awful, he had a horrible migraine (shouldn't have gone!) and even though he is an early thirties able bodied male three delegate people offered their seat to him because he looked 'like he needed it.'

teeththief Sun 20-Dec-15 23:39:57

She looked around to see what others did Worra and then stood up because nobody else did.

WorraLiberty Sun 20-Dec-15 23:41:24

She looked around to see what others did Worra and then stood up because nobody else did

Ahh there you go then.

The others were probably doing the same thing smile

A couple of seconds longer and I'm quite sure someone else would have offered.

teeththief Sun 20-Dec-15 23:43:21

Yes of course

theycallmemellojello Sun 20-Dec-15 23:45:08

Yep, another one saying it's not at all typical. I agree that it's probably just that your kid stood up immediately or that there were lots of tourists who didn't understand the request. I'm from Yorkshire and live in london and have never found it less friendly than up north. I did have the misfortune to share a tube carriage the other weekend with a load of pissed brummies (? Or other midlands) chanting 'London's shit, we're going home' repeatedly. 'Please, don't let us stop you' thought the other commuters.

CastaDiva Sun 20-Dec-15 23:46:23

Not remotely typical of my experience of living there, including commuting while pregnant and lugging a buggy and baby about on a tube line with hardly any lifts.. I think you were unlucky. I often found illmannered public transport behaviour was from tourists or out of towners.

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