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To not feel festive?

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HackerFucker22 Sun 20-Dec-15 20:57:25

I adore Christmas and I really go to town making it special.

This year though it just feels like a damp squib?

There is no reason for me to feel like this (nothing to "spoil" Christmas)

I feel like I'm going through the motions with it all.

Anyone else? And how do I get my festive mojo back?

abbsismyhero Sun 20-Dec-15 21:01:49

place marking it seems so forced this year i cant be fucked with it all i feel bad for the children im hoping they dont notice

UpsyDaisy123 Sun 20-Dec-15 21:02:13

Yes, I've been feeling a bit like this this year too.

The most telling moment for me was when the special double edition of the Radio Times came out. I always used to get so excited going through it all with a giant highlighter. Yet this year I've just been thinking, 'Same old, same old' <yawn>.

VimFuego101 Sun 20-Dec-15 21:04:24

If I could hibernate until it was all over, I would. I was so excited to do stuff with DS now he's 4 and knows what's going on, but then DH's ex stirred up drama and now I just can't be arsed.

Twinklefuck Sun 20-Dec-15 21:06:41

We've had 24 hours of norovirus from hell. My festive spirit has well and truly left the building!

UpsyDaisy123 Sun 20-Dec-15 21:10:48

Thought you might find these useful:

Natural Remedies For The Blues

- Have a structure;
- Have goals;
- Exercise;
- Eat well;
- Eat regularly;
- Get enough sleep;
- Try something new;
- Take omega 3 fatty acids;
- Consider why you might feel blue (is it circumstantial?);
- Get more sunlight;
- Try meditation/relaxation techniques/guided imagery;
- Volunteer;
- Do craft activities;
- Get out of the house;
- Try a light box;
- Try flower remedies;
- Write a journal.

Joolsy Sun 20-Dec-15 21:11:59

Just remember, it is just another day. Try not to feel pressured to feel happy or festive in the run up if you don't want to. Just do things that make you happy on the day and be a bit selfish. I find the run up a bit tedious and don't really feel festive until the day itself, and by 3pm I'm tired and it's an anti-climax! Bah humbug

UpsyDaisy123 Sun 20-Dec-15 21:12:00

Yes I know what you mean about hibernating until it's all over. Can't we just fast-forward to New Year now please?

fieldfare Sun 20-Dec-15 21:14:06

I completely agree. We even went to Winter Wonderland today and while it was fun to watch and watch Dd watch the circus it was too warm and didn't feel "right" at all.

Fairylea Sun 20-Dec-15 21:14:48

I'm not feeling it either. I'm trying to, really trying to mainly for the sake of dd aged 12 but life is pretty crap at the moment. Ds is 3.5 and being assessed for autism and has quite severe special needs and I'm feeling very sad he has no idea or understanding about Christmas whatsoever. I have wrapped presents and he's seen them and isn't the remotest bit interested. He has no understanding about anything other than the lights being pretty and I know I shouldn't be bothered by it all but I am. Plus dh has been signed off work for the last 6 weeks with depression and anxiety and money is dreadfully tight (non existent) so Christmas can generally go fuck itself.

Sorry maybe I just needed a moan. blush


SalemSaberhagen Sun 20-Dec-15 21:19:55

I'm the same. I love Christmas usually, and was so excited about it in the summer. It doesn't feel like Christmas at all though. Even 15 month old DD isn't making me feel festive sad

Waitingfordolly Sun 20-Dec-15 21:21:49

Yeah I feel a bit meh too. Maybe because I still have to work this week as well as sort out food and final presents so I'm quite stressed. And I put on Christmas for DM and DF (who just argue but are old and frail) and DB most years but don't get to do what I'd choose to otherwise with DD. I like Xmas Eve and the bit in the morning when DD opens her presents but I hate cooking. The timing of it this year seems a bit weird though, schools broke up but there are still four working days to go.

intheairthatnightfernando Sun 20-Dec-15 21:22:17

I love christmas too but two weeks ago my H told me he was leaving us out of the blue and he's moving out on Boxing Day. So I'm not managing to feel very festive either though doing my best for the dc.

pieceofpurplesky Sun 20-Dec-15 21:29:03

Fernando I was in the same position two years ago - my heart was shattered. He eventually left in the February. Last Christmas was hard but this year I am looking forward again. I just want it to be colder - making new traditions!
Hope you get through it ok thanks

Muddlewitch Sun 20-Dec-15 21:32:35

I'm not feeling it either this year, and I usually love Christmas. Too much else going on, I'm just going through the motions, it makes me a bit sad though wish I could get into it.

EponasWildDaughter Sun 20-Dec-15 21:32:40

I was like this last year.

Best i can say is: this time next week it'll all be over with anyway smile

Fairylea Sun 20-Dec-15 21:36:15

Fernando flowers that was me many years ago. I remember the raw pain of it all really well. Lots of flowers and wine for you.

Teenagecrisisagain Sun 20-Dec-15 21:38:44

I don't feel festive at all. I'm trying though!

Keep making mince pies and going to the garden centre. Watched elf today with dd2 rather than do housework. I'm trying but I just don't feel Christmassy !

EponasWildDaughter Sun 20-Dec-15 21:44:43

Fernando just seen your post.


Missyaggravation Sun 20-Dec-15 21:45:13

I hate Christmas with a passion. Both parents dead, only family member I'm close with is an alcoholic. Single, ex irritates out of me. So very jealous of all those people with lovely extended families sad

intheairthatnightfernando Mon 21-Dec-15 18:55:03

Thanks for the flowers, much appreciated. This is such a struggle but the dc are so excited and sweet it is keeping me going. What sort of a man declares 'we've grown apart' two weeks before christmas?
Don't want to wish christmas past as the kids are so happy and looking forward to it, but having him in the house is so difficult and he leaves just after.

KittyandTeal Mon 21-Dec-15 19:02:07

If I could skip this Christmas I would.

It'll be our first without dd2 who we lost in Jan, she should be 7mo now.

I've realised I've been throwing myself into lots of other things (one of which I really shouldn't have done) to avoid it. I've made a huge, stupid mistake that has me feeling guilty in top of it all.

I'm trying to make it jolly, dd1 is 3, she's just understanding it all and getting excited. My DH way of dealing with it is to invite both families over for Christmas Eve - Boxing Day when all I want to do is curl up in bed and let it all pass by me!

theconstantvacuumer Mon 21-Dec-15 19:05:26

Me too. I usually love Christmas but I'm just not feeling it this year. I'm usually off from before Christmas right through to January but I'll be working Christmas Eve, Boxing Day and the following two days plus New Years Day. So not much time off really. Plus I haven't been very organised and Christmas just seems to have rolled around really quickly!

DefinitelyNotElsa Mon 21-Dec-15 19:07:43

I usually love Christmas, but I'm not feeling it this year.

PND is a bitch. I can do so much to slap a smile on my face and pretend, but the thought of doing it for so long is dragging me down.

daisychain01 Mon 21-Dec-15 21:19:57

What sort of a man declares 'we've grown apart' two weeks before christmas?

Not to excuse his behaviour Fernando, but the painful fact is that Christmas magnifies the fault - lines in relationships so much, it can drive someone to putting a bomb under it before the Big Day, almost as a way of response to all the artificial happiness around them. It happened to me years ago, so I can understand the feeling.

I'm so sorry and hope you can stay strong, with the thought that the New Year can bring new beginnings to you and the family.

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