5 years ago my DD started uni and almost immediately developed anorexia. Now five years, extensive therapy and a gap year later she is fully weight restored and hopefully will be in recovery forever . It was a wake up call for our family. I no longer obsess about my own weight and diet., I exercise for pleasure and fitness, not to balance out calorie intake. We chucked out our scales and just enjoy food and togetherness. Except my mum.
When DD started to eat again she wrote to my mum and explained how hard it was and how she wanted to spend time with her having coffee/cake/nothing at all etc without having to talk about food but my mum just doesn't get it. She still asks DD for diet hints or declines food/drink because she is feeling 'fat' - a trigger word for DD. Two years into DD's recovery my mum still obsesses about food and calories with her and DD is too loving/polite/damaged to pull her up on it.
For the record my mum is 5ft tall and a size 10/12. This is not a case of someone big needing help or advice. Is there any way I can get her to understand that what is a vain obsession for her is a life threatening illness for DD. What. I really want is for her to JUST SHUT UP.
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liinyo · 20/12/2015 06:11
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