My DH died in March and up until recently I wasn't going to put up a tree, but changed my mind for the sake of the grown up kids. The youngest is 20 but has SN and has been asking for a tree, so I'm going to try to make it as nice a Christmas as I can. Today I bought some tree baubles that you can open and put things into, so I had planned on getting the kids to write messages to my DH.
My dh's siblings are very supportive of me and the kids, generally, so I had wondered if it would be appropriate to ask them to each write a message and place it in a bauble each? I would then like them to give me the baubles, which would not be opened, to put on our tree. That's the bit I'm worried about. Would you be offended if someone asked you to write a message to a lost loved one, then entrust it to them or would you expect to keep it for your tree? should let them put the bauble on their tree or
I would just say I got these and this is what we are doing as a family. Then say We would love you to be involved if you want to be. You can give me back the baubles to put on my tree or keep them for your own. Then they can choose.
Thank you Gin and Mistress, you make so much sense. I think I'd got my self so worried about offending them, that I couldn't think how to word it. I love your suggestion of how to word it Gin and also what you say about it being appropriate to keep them together Mistress. I'm a bit embarrassed at getting so worried about it now.