There's a bit of a back story but I don't want to drip feed so will say SIL and I aren't best friends, but we're not sworn enemies and can (and do) spend time in each others company when we need to.
She & bil live close to us, dhs parents live abroad, and we only really see them when their parents are home for a visit.
She rang dh today, asked what time suited for her to call to the house with gifts for the kids. Dh said he had an appointment at 3.30pm but would be home after 5pm and I'd be home after 6. She said OK etc..
Then when he came home from his appointment found two packages on the back door step.
Why'd she ring to see when suited us if she was just going to come when we were out anyway?
This isn't the first time she's done this. In fact the last time was the summer, dhs birthday, we told her we were out for the morning but in the end dd was ill. So we were at home when she left his gift hanging on the gate - I opened the door but she seemed awfully put out to find us in.
I gave gifts for them which they didn't get as we weren't in. Dh or me will take them to their house, I have no issues with that, but I just can't get my head around the avoidance.
I know she can be very anxious and the only thing I can think of is that she wasn't having a good day and didn't want to face anyone, but in that case wouldn't the gifts have done to another day?
(It's not about the gifts, they're like she buys out of duty)
I'm not going to say anything, I just wonder AIBU for feeling like she was checking to ensure we'd be out before coming to our house?
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To be annoyed and wonder why she did this?
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Evabeaversprotege · 18/12/2015 23:10
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