To think this is a disgusting thing to do??

[Dothetwist]

My dd has been picked on in school on and off for the last year. She has been physically attacked a couple of times, each time i have been in to school they say the right thing but then it happens again

This year she is being singled out of a group, we know one of the parents through distant relatives we have a bad relationship with this has caused this particular mum to think she needs to bring dd into it.

In october dd was the only girl left out of a party..was told there was no room!
She gets left out of their group play dates, we brush it off and plan something for us to distract her

Well the bullying is getting bad, I've gone into school and got the relevant form to get her moved to another school and told them i will be writing to the governors and ofsted due to their inability to safeguard my daughter.

This particular mum is a queen bee type, always picking others up from the school for playdates and it the chair of the PTA. This afternoon this mum was in the classroom at pick up and rounded up the 9 other girls in dd's class as they are all going to her house for a christmas party.

Her dd then comes up to my dd with a bag of craft items and says... "here, my mum told me to give you this as you're not invited to my party" the mum then very loudly goes on about getting going.

Aibu to shove shit in this bag and put it through her letter box?

It seems so fucking spiteful

[HarrietSchulenberg]

That's really horrible. Help your dd to use the craft items to make a hideous witch and post it to the mum, labelled "Ugly on the Inside".

[Pidapie]

That's awful :O Glad you'll be moving her to another school, nobody should have to put up with bullying :( Hope the new school is better for her!

[Oswin]

Oh Jesus that is fucking awful. What a nasty spiteful piece of shit. Your poor dd

[RubbleBubble00]

move your dd ASAP. Not worth engaging with utterly bitchy parents. No harm in mentioning to board of governors the chair of pta aggravation of the situation

[hedgehogsdontbite]

Bloody hell OP. I'd be up that school demanding blood for allowing this to happen. It's bad enough when it's from kids and they do nothing. But allowing a parent into the classroom to bully a child is a whole other level of twattishness.

[dylsmimi]

Ahh your poor dd. I would have been tempted to pass the bag back smiling brightly saying 'oh I'm sorry we won't have time for crafts we are off to xxxx (insert name of fabulous destination / activity) and are fully booked up to the new year. Maybe you had better have them back

[BitchPeas]

Yanbu what a cunt. Move her schools as soon as you can,

[Lovelydiscusfish]

Horrible. Shame on her.
Try to put it put of your mind for now. Enjoy the holidays with your lovely daughter.
Hope you are both ok.

[CocktailQueen]

What a bitch. Your poor dd. Big hugs for her.

May Queen Bee's turkey rot and all her teeth fall out. Evil witch.

[CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt]

I assume your dd accepted the crafts. Later this eve when the children have gone home from the party, I'd be tempted to put them, unopened through her letterbox with a note along the lines of "if you thing it's acceptable to exclude one innocent child from a group party, and then attempt to exonerate yourself by providing a "kind" gift you can keep them. Give them to the next child you want to exclude. Hope karma catches up with you at some point".

And then inform ofsted, governors of school of your concerns to their inadequate safeguarding.

Hope it works out. My ds is only 3 but the thought of him being bullied and excluded in the future terrifies me.

[munkisocks]

Loving the witch idea! Your poor dd. What kind of parent can do this to a child? I wouldn't WANT to be part of this group if I had to associate with this kind of "person".

[lifesalongsong]

Do you need forms to move schools?

In my area I think you just get in contact with the school you want to go to and if they have a place I think you can start pretty much the next day.

It's going to be difficult over the holidays but you should be able to get a new school for the start of next term.

[Dothetwist]

She is only 5 aswel so really doesn't understand the reasons why it is going on.

I am seriously considering putting it on her doorstep with a passive aggressive note

[lastqueenofscotland]

I agree with what coffee said 100%
What a poisonous woman.

[FeliciaJollygoodfellow]

That is fucking horrible.

I'm not sure I'd be able to keep my temper and not knock on her door to tell her what a nasty piece of work she is.

[Dothetwist]

The only other school has no spaces, so i have to get a form from the current school which details she actually goes there, take it to the local admissions team and wait for a space

[AlpacaStockingFullOfChocolate]

I wouldn't even bother with passive-aggressive. I'd go full aggressive...

'Allow me to take your pathetic consolation prize and shove it so far up your arse you'll be shitting glitter and lolly sticks until 2016'

[flyhigh]

What kind of mother allows her child to exclude just one little girl!! Unbelievable!! So sorry for your daughter and you.

[DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease]

Put it on top of their wheelie bin, or partially in, partially out.

[TaliZorah]

That's horrible. I'd say something to her personally.

[Curioushorse]

God. Not really much the school can do, in their defence. This is a parent, outside the school, controlling the environment and the attitude of the kids. Yeah, I'd move. I wouldn't even bother praying for karma. I know it's no help to you at the moment, but she must be genuinely miserable already. What kind of adult is that invested and controlling in their kids' social lives? She's heading for a fall when her daughter hits secondary school!

[SinisterBumFacedCat]

What a cunt. Post the craft shit back through the letterbox with a print out of this thread. In case she's in any doubt about how she's behaved.

With parents like this NO WONDER bullying happens

[Notonthestairs]

Christ some people deserve some bad karma. I totally agree, that woman is an utter bitch.

But I bet the other mums see it and despise it too, I know I would.

What about other play dates? What are the other children like? Does she have any other friends that makes it worth it for her to stay?

My dd has SENS but is in a mainstream school and I dread this sort of stuff because she's def a bit eccentric (and utterly lovely).

And FYI I am making my son invite fewer children to his birthday party than he can have there in order to make sure that almost as many children arent going as are and fewer children feel left out. (There's a limit of 12 and there are 15 boys in his class - so he's taking 8).

[whois]

I would move my child. This kind of relentless 'low level' bullying will eat away at her confidence. A move to a new school and a new group of people could work wonders.