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to have reacted this way to this work situation?

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Timeforanamechangey Fri 18-Dec-15 18:37:05

Or rather was ibu?

Things have been simmering at work for a while now, mainly because of my boss who I don't actually work 'with' (as it, at work at the same time) but he is my superior.

He has been making snide remarks, leaving passive aggressive notes aimed at me, settling up scenarios to catch me out and make me look incompetent and been interrogating other members of staff about me behind my back. He has my contact information so he could quite easily contact me directly if he had an issue with me but he chooses not to, in fact most of the time if I try and contact him directly he just ignores me. Its all stupid petty little things that are just annoying on their own but all added together its just unbearable.

Today things came to a head, I won't go into the details as its long and complicated but I just snapped and broke down crying at work. Then I had a panic attack. It sounds soooo overdramatic and I'm not normally one to do that at all but I've been having councilling for depression lately anyway and I just can't cope with all the critisism and added stress at work at the moment. It feels like I'm constantly being watched and monitored for no good reason and I'm terrified I'm going to be fired sad

So I went to the doctor's after work and got signed off for two weeks.

I feel really shitty that I'm off for two weeks over Christmas but I feel like at the moment I'm so close to just walking out and I don't want to do that as I can't afford to leave without something else to go to.

Wibu to get signed off?

TiredButFineODFOJ Fri 18-Dec-15 18:39:35

Nope, being signed off is exactly what you need. Othereople will always try to minimise your stress, even if the conditions are clearly stressful it will be "the way YOU deal with it" step away from the workplace and let people say/think what they like.

Tiggeryoubastard Fri 18-Dec-15 18:40:33

Nah. He sounds a knob. Use this time to rest and regroup.

redexpat Fri 18-Dec-15 18:46:38

YANBU. Please write down as many incidents of bullying as you can think of. When it happened, what happened, who else was there. Document all the times you have contacted him and have had no response.

Are you in a union? If not join one now.

Timeforanamechangey Fri 18-Dec-15 19:43:43

Phew, ok, thank you!

I've never been signed off before, not even when I had severe depression and was borderline suicidal but obviously having been in that emotional place I'm not keen to go back there and thought I should try and recify this situation before it gets any worse.

Fwiw, I thought I was being quite silly and over the top but the doctor seemed to think a request for time off was perfectly reasonable and was very understanding. Quite a shock actually as I was not expecting him to be so nice but when you're sobbing in someone's office I suppose that helps!

Have had a very stressful and emotional year so this really was the cherry on the cake.

foxessoxes Fri 18-Dec-15 19:54:32

Been there.

Use this time to apply for other jobs- you have a rest; but dont think he will go easy on you when you go back- because im sure the opposite will happen.

Sorry your going through this. Its completely shit

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