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to wonder whether other people have found their political views change after having DC?

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Maybejustme Fri 18-Dec-15 09:42:02

Just that, really. Since DD (2) was born, I think I've become more left wing. DH has definitely become more right wing; he says it stems from the desire to look after our family unit more now. Just wondered whether anyone else had found the same?

ChefBell Fri 18-Dec-15 09:49:19

I've moved from just left to just right of the middle. I like to think I'm moderate in my views.

NCISaddict Fri 18-Dec-15 09:50:18

Not when I had children, think I was too busy to pay it much attention, my views have definitely changed as I've got older.

Wouldn't say I've become more left wing but more liberal and more pragmatic, less idealistic although that may be because of the job I do. I now realise that not everything can be fixed and that some people genuinely do not want help and are happy living in a way that I find strange.
I'm much more of a 'live and let live' person now whereas before I thought that a good government could fix everything.

NotNob Fri 18-Dec-15 09:53:45

Yep. I used to be a guardian- reading leftie. Now I've moved right, although still consider myself a liberal. I'm more intolerant now, especially of non-accountability in it's various forms. This has been a slow shift over 6 years, but if I ever pick up a Daily Mail, I want to be shot.

Whatsinaname2011 Fri 18-Dec-15 10:02:43

The older and wiser I'm getting the more right wing I become. Which I believe is statistically what happens

BuildMoreHouses Fri 18-Dec-15 10:07:51

Neither more Right or Left wing but more decided on particular issues.

choccywoccywoowah Fri 18-Dec-15 10:18:32

I would like to see statistics for that claim Whatsisname.

Samcro Fri 18-Dec-15 10:30:22

no not for me, I have always voted the same......but there is no way on this earth I would vote for scameron and co now that I have a disabled child.

dangerrabbit Fri 18-Dec-15 11:02:05

My political views have remained the same, but I've become more feminist as I experience the real impact of the patriarchy.

chrome100 Fri 18-Dec-15 11:05:58

I don't have kids but I've found I've gone more right wing as I've got older and less tolerant and liberal.

ToysDontWorkNoMore Fri 18-Dec-15 11:27:41

I am worrying more about the environment. In my views I am a Green voter, but as it's a wasted vote sad it's Lib Dem or Labour for me. Coming from socialist Scandinavia, the Tories and their philosophy seems totally alien and, frankly, evil to me.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Fri 18-Dec-15 11:48:11

My views have always been slightly right of centre I'd say, I've always been Conservative, but whereas I have hardly ever bothered to vote when I was younger, I would always vote now.

Whatsinaname2011 Fri 18-Dec-15 11:58:35

choccywoccy not sure on statistics but I believe it's widely believed. wether it's true or not i couldnt say!

Whatsinaname2011 Fri 18-Dec-15 12:00:20


YouGov Poll "Looking back, do you think your own views have become more right-wing as you have got older, more left wing, or have your views stayed about the same?"

22% say they have become "more right-wing" with age
15% who say "more left-wing"

I guess the majority stayed the same so most people have the same views but if you're going to change you're more likely to go further right

Mari50 Fri 18-Dec-15 12:13:55

I'm definitely more left wing. I was quite conservative growing up but since having my child I'm significantly more liberal- however this does coincide with a changing world where the amount of inequality is obscene so it might have nothing to do with my child.
The 'haves' in this world and their desire to hang onto everything they have/earn/inherit/etc make me sick to my stomach.

abbieanders Fri 18-Dec-15 13:07:39

Definitely more left wing. Far more tolerant of the struggles that people have which affect them in ways that I don't necessarily understand and lead to decisions I don't think I'd make. Also, more aware that, in different circumstances, I might surprise myself with what I'd do. I feel more part of a community, too.

DrDreReturns Fri 18-Dec-15 13:18:24

I have definitely got more right wing as I've aged. I used to be far left when I was young, now I'd describe myself as just right of centre. I don't think it's related to having kids, in my case I think it's been my experience of work that has changed my politics.

BlueJug Fri 18-Dec-15 13:18:55

A bit of both. Left on some issues, right on others. I find the party system difficult for that reason.

For example I work with a lot of people who claim benefits and who have never and will never work. I work with people who have zero social responsibility and believe they have a right to a house, a tv, a new pram, Christmas presents etc and yet have NO duty to work, volunteer, save, contribute to society in any way. I see my kids growing up and competing against more and more kids for school places, work opportunities, extra services, medical care - and not always getting what they need. That makes me right wing. It is a perceived unfairness.

I am much more left wing though in terms industry, big business, energy, planning, social housing, education, NHS etc. So who do I vote for - that's the problem.

Devora Fri 18-Dec-15 13:25:15

There was some research published a few years ago that found that fathers become more left wing if they have daughters. Which is very interesting, I think.

I have always been left of centre, though I think I FEEL my political convictions more since having children. There's more investment in getting the world to be an ok place.

Mistigri Fri 18-Dec-15 13:29:37

I don't think my politics have changed much in left-right terms, although I have become more pragmatic, and the middle ground has definitely shifted.

I'd have been slightly left of centre in 1982 when I turned 18. Now I suspect that many people in the UK would consider my politics pretty leftwing, although by continental european standards I am by no means a radical (I'm an old fashioned social liberal who believes that the role of government is to compensate for the inefficiencies of "free" markets).

The one area where my politics have moved sharply left is on the issue of labour organisation - I think the reason why productivity is such a problem in the UK is that labour isn't able to hold management to account (if labour is cheap and disposable, as it is in the UK, there is little incentive to invest in technology or skills - Sports Direct is a recent example of where this leads).

This change in my political opinions isn't really to do with parenthood, although having two adolescents who will be entering the labour market in the next few years certainly makes it a subject of interest to me.

Flingingmelon Fri 18-Dec-15 13:37:58

What a good question OP.

I think I'm still about the same but individual areas have swung from left to right and vice versa. I'm definitely more understanding now, I get that life isn't black and white and people can't always control their circumstances, so maybe that makes me more left wing.
But I'm socially more conservative. Nothing major, more wishing people would think of the children (!) re swearing in public, drinking etc, which previously wouldn't have bothered me before.

TimeToMuskUp Fri 18-Dec-15 13:45:41

I've always leaned to the left since being old enough to vote. As I get older I've not changed that, but am decidedly less judgemental and idealistic than I was before children.

DH has always been a Tory, but is getting more Tory with each year that goes by. When we met 9 years ago he was far less black-and-white about his political views and we argue about it often.

Sanchar Fri 18-Dec-15 13:52:45

I've become more leftwing. Before dc I was not bothered much by politics, voted conservative because my parents did etc.
Since dc (and discovering MN!) I've become more aware of politics and how it effects my kids, services available, NHS etc. Now I vote green.

Dh on the other hand has become more rightwing and is forever bitching about his taxes paid, especially NI, he would love an American style health system😱😱😱

It causes some arguments at election time!!!

scribblegirl Fri 18-Dec-15 14:03:07

I don't have DCs yet but political movements are interesting. I was a typical socialist teen, went to uni and studied politics and now consider myself more 'old school' libertarian, so my social politics haven't really changed but my economic politics absolutely have. Probably makes sense as I now work in professional services in the city.

When I was a shouty teen, my dad was a company director in central London and was of the opinion that Thatcher was basically God! He grew up as a working class lad who believed that the Conservatives represented the ideals of the 'self made man'. Funnily, he's now retired, disabled and a hardcore Labour voter. He rationalises it by the fact that economic and business politics just aren't his priority any more. Family finances took a real hit in the recession and I think that's a factor too.

The irony in this is that a decade ago I'd end political arguments with my dad calling him a Fascist and storming out of the room - nowadays it's more likely to end with my labeling him a Communist!

Really interesting topic and I'll be keen to see how things change the older I get and after life events e.g. children and home ownership (if we can ever afford it!)

Treats Fri 18-Dec-15 14:04:05

Definitely more left wing, although I think that's too binary a way to think of politics in the modern world, and my specific views are more nuanced.

I grew up in the Toriest part of the country, but this actually made it completely unpolitical - everyone was happy with the status quo and nobody agitated for change.

I moved to London when I was 18 and since then my eyes have been opened to how insufficient the Tories world view is in, for example, alleviating poverty or managing international relations.

I've moved so far away (metaphorically, not literally) that I'm now in a selection contest to represent one of the other parties in an election next year. I've become passionately opposed to Toryism in all its manifestations.

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