ok We as a family and a good number of cousins that are in similarly age with us all and we used to spend various of long summer holidays of hanging out.
anyone we tried to arrange catch ups and etc.
my first cousin got married last year.
And i went to her hens. in a different county and her wedding again spending several nights in a hotelx
I wanted to go and i did enjoyed myself but as i was on a fixed income there was a considerable sum to me but i scrimped.
Hens was fine.
I WAS however put out of her wedding as she the bride. Spended more time with her Friends and it was party wedding she had the celebrations with her immediately family the day before. Which was fine but personally i would had have the day and be done with. No proper seating and and everyone grabbing food from where they could take it. AND SHE didn't even say goodbye to everyone at the breakfast table as she was hungover!!!!
so we fb chatted and i found out from a mutual cousin that she will be a aunt over in January and that was about a month ago. Which is a blessing and a joyous occasion. blah blah well we had chatted on and off so i gave her a few texts but i wanted her to tell me her good news and we chatted on fb about various things.
Explained to me that she loves her marraige life and they have plenty of time to have children.
I said you would be a great mum etc and not a word from her that she be a aunt her rest of a family arent on facebook and her mum and my mum arent close. So that was that until today she text me im a aunty and i replied what? and she explained blah blah and i said whate? are you only telling me this now?
i didn't even she was pregnant her db wife? oh she said did you not know? i thought everyone knew (it wasnt any other reference anywhere or i would have picked on it) I SAID no i didnt your the only one of your family that talks to me.? they rest live around 300 miles.
Oh yea she says i didn't think like that i thought my mum might have told our mutual aunt and she will mentioned to your mum but i forget that our mums dont talk (there are sisters)
blah blah about keeping it quiet which is (understandably after a certain amount time unless your showing) ah sure it was on the cards. married,house
so i replyed after congrats to her saying if you ever get pregnant please tell me and not when the baby is born. and she was oh yea blah blah but im was so furious that i said had to go for a party. i THINK THAT WAS LOUSY TBH couldnt even say im going to be a aunt soon
AIBU?
am ? i am? annoyed !!!!!!!!!!!
creamponies · 17/12/2015 22:33
you are pissed off because your cousin didn't tell you that someone you don't know is having a baby and that she spent more time with her friends than you at her wedding??
I've been using pritt stick tonight. Think it's gone to my head
Given your over reaction I can see why she would keep things from you 
Do you often make everything all about yourself?
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Ok...so you're hurt that your cousin's wife had a baby, and his sister should have told you because she's the only cousin that talks to you?
So when she told you that she was an aunt, you told her to make sure that when she becomes pregnant that she should tell you when she's pregnant, not just when the baby's born like this time because you feel hurt that they didn't tell you such important family news earlier?
Have I got that right?
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