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creamponies Thu 17-Dec-15 22:33:09

ok We as a family and a good number of cousins that are in similarly age with us all and we used to spend various of long summer holidays of hanging out.

anyone we tried to arrange catch ups and etc.

my first cousin got married last year.
And i went to her hens. in a different county and her wedding again spending several nights in a hotelx
I wanted to go and i did enjoyed myself but as i was on a fixed income there was a considerable sum to me but i scrimped.
Hens was fine.
I WAS however put out of her wedding as she the bride. Spended more time with her Friends and it was party wedding she had the celebrations with her immediately family the day before. Which was fine but personally i would had have the day and be done with. No proper seating and and everyone grabbing food from where they could take it. AND SHE didn't even say goodbye to everyone at the breakfast table as she was hungover!!!!
so we fb chatted and i found out from a mutual cousin that she will be a aunt over in January and that was about a month ago. Which is a blessing and a joyous occasion. blah blah well we had chatted on and off so i gave her a few texts but i wanted her to tell me her good news and we chatted on fb about various things.
Explained to me that she loves her marraige life and they have plenty of time to have children.

I said you would be a great mum etc and not a word from her that she be a aunt her rest of a family arent on facebook and her mum and my mum arent close. So that was that until today she text me im a aunty and i replied what? and she explained blah blah and i said whate? are you only telling me this now?
i didn't even she was pregnant her db wife? oh she said did you not know? i thought everyone knew (it wasnt any other reference anywhere or i would have picked on it) I SAID no i didnt your the only one of your family that talks to me.? they rest live around 300 miles.

Oh yea she says i didn't think like that i thought my mum might have told our mutual aunt and she will mentioned to your mum but i forget that our mums dont talk (there are sisters)
blah blah about keeping it quiet which is (understandably after a certain amount time unless your showing) ah sure it was on the cards. married,house
so i replyed after congrats to her saying if you ever get pregnant please tell me and not when the baby is born. and she was oh yea blah blah but im was so furious that i said had to go for a party. i THINK THAT WAS LOUSY TBH couldnt even say im going to be a aunt soon

Quiero Thu 17-Dec-15 22:36:48

Eh? confused

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Thu 17-Dec-15 22:38:07

confused you are pissed off because your cousin didn't tell you that someone you don't know is having a baby and that she spent more time with her friends than you at her wedding??

vestandknickers Thu 17-Dec-15 22:39:46


Have you been on the cooking sherry?

shivermytimbers Thu 17-Dec-15 22:40:08

Literally none the wiser

goodnightdarthvader1 Thu 17-Dec-15 22:40:35

Dafuq did I just read?

happybus28 Thu 17-Dec-15 22:41:24

Totally lost with this one 🤔

MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours Thu 17-Dec-15 22:41:30


UmbongoUnchained Thu 17-Dec-15 22:42:43

You're supposed to leave the Port till Christmas!

Hobbes8 Thu 17-Dec-15 22:43:05

But you did find out. Didn't you? Or did you? You did?

Quiero Thu 17-Dec-15 22:43:08

Who had a baby? The cousin who's wedding it was or a different cousin?

ihatethecold Thu 17-Dec-15 22:43:24

It's like the op is having s conversation in her head.

Topseyt Thu 17-Dec-15 22:43:52

None of that made any sense whatsoever. Totally incomprehensible.

pinkdelight Thu 17-Dec-15 22:44:26

Who do you think you're talking to? We're not one of your cousins. You have to make it clear or it's just like some mad lady jabbering on a night bus. From what I can gather, which isn't a great deal, YABU.

creamponies Thu 17-Dec-15 22:44:49

its my first cousin that was having a baby her brother but his wife. It would have been the first grandchild status out of her immediate family. She been saying to everyone but not to me and it hurts that she go on about her problems and not one dickie bird about something like that i feel very hurt.

SilverOldie2 Thu 17-Dec-15 22:44:56

yeaah, right, ok confused

Allbymyselfagain Thu 17-Dec-15 22:45:13


iklboo Thu 17-Dec-15 22:47:12

So...your cousin's sister is pregnant? Or her brother's wife is pregnant? In which case they are your cousins too so why aren't you mad at them?

If it's her husband's family that are expecting I can kind of see why she didn't think to tell you.

She's your cousin, not your twin. You don't have to know every minute detail of her life.

BackInTheRealWorld Thu 17-Dec-15 22:47:39

Oh here we go...

LavenderRain Thu 17-Dec-15 22:47:43

I've been using pritt stick tonight. Think it's gone to my head confused

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Thu 17-Dec-15 22:47:50

Given your over reaction I can see why she would keep things from you hmm

Do you often make everything all about yourself?

ifyoulikepinacolada Thu 17-Dec-15 22:48:31

Hang on OP. You're offended that your cousin:

1) didn't organise her wedding the way you would have done
2) didn't tell you that her brother and his wife were going to have a baby

And instead of asking her directly you tried to hint at the subject over text and facebook chat?

Surely though as it's her brother's baby (isn't he your cousin too?) and you say you don't have contact with that side of the family, it's not her news to share? And also - she did tell you!

Sorry but I'm a bit confused as to what she's done wrong...

Topseyt Thu 17-Dec-15 22:48:45

You seem totally unable to explain yourself coherently at all. You are just rambling randomly.

angryangryyoungwoman Thu 17-Dec-15 22:48:58

I've read through that 3 times and I still don't understand, sorry

50ShadesofNope Thu 17-Dec-15 22:49:40 you're hurt that your cousin's wife had a baby, and his sister should have told you because she's the only cousin that talks to you?

So when she told you that she was an aunt, you told her to make sure that when she becomes pregnant that she should tell you when she's pregnant, not just when the baby's born like this time because you feel hurt that they didn't tell you such important family news earlier?

Have I got that right? confused

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