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AIBU?

To tell a child on train to chew with their mouth closed?

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Vanderwaals · 17/12/2015 07:18

(Inspired by another thread)
Yes I know there are far more annoying occurrences on train.
But yesterday, on the way home from work, there was a child (age 10ish) sat behind me on the train eating crisps and munching very loudly with their mouth open. He was sat next to his mother (I presume) who said nothing.
Would I be unreasonable to tell them to chew with his mouth closed?
Btw I genuinely have misophonia and noises like that make me rage/want to cry

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ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 17/12/2015 07:19

Yes you would. I get why you would want to though

Gileswithachainsaw · 17/12/2015 07:22

I think at ten he should know better . do go ahead

Gileswithachainsaw · 17/12/2015 07:23

But I don't think its much different from.kicking seats. you have to learn to be considerate of others in confined public places.

not as if it's a crying baby which can't be helped

chillycurtains · 17/12/2015 07:26

How rude...of you. As if you are perfect with no bad habits at all. Why do you think it's ok to make a child of 10 (or any age) feel bad about themselves and embarass them?

Maybe you should get a cab everywhere is you can't cope with other people who are around you.

It's not that chewing with your mouth open isn't gross, it is. But you have absolutely no right to tell him what to do. You don't own the world, the train or anywhere else. Tough luck.

Lucymatilde · 17/12/2015 07:27

I reckon I have misophonia too but in this sort of case it's also a dislike of ignorance and bad manners. The combination really gets to me.

theycallmemellojello · 17/12/2015 07:28

Yes that would be extremely rude! Of course you don't get to go round telling others what to do! Agree that if you get public transport you have to put up with there being people on it.

theycallmemellojello · 17/12/2015 07:29

And the misphonia makes no difference IMO.

Choughed · 17/12/2015 07:29

Noise cancelling headphones are a must in public transport.

ArmchairTraveller · 17/12/2015 07:32

Public transport, you get the general public with all their unseemly habits. You tell him off, his mum tells you to fuck off and there you are, glaring at each other.
DD finds public transport a challenge, but as she can't drive, there are few other options. So she wears headphones. Try that.

ArmchairTraveller · 17/12/2015 07:32

xpost, Choughed

ArmchairTraveller · 17/12/2015 07:35

It's like that advert currently on the TV 'I am train,' where the bloke suddenly makes a loud BAAAH BAAAHHH sound whilst he's standing in a crowd.
And the train company thought that advertising you might be stuck with a prat for a long journey would be a selling point?

Mistigri · 17/12/2015 07:36

If you use public transport, you accept that other members of the public will be using it too, and that some them may not meet your standards of personal hygiene/ dress/ table manners.

Obviously that doesn't give people the right to be antisocial, but eating with your mouth open doesn't really fall into that bracket.

Take a pair of headphones next time.

museumum · 17/12/2015 07:38

If you have misophonia then actually I think you need to accept that it's you rather than the child. Crisps crunch. You can't eat them silently. And you can't know they were eating with their mouth open if they were behind you.
(If they were opposite and showing chewed up food then it would be different).

Lucymatilde · 17/12/2015 07:39

yes it probably would be rude and may well elicit a robust response from a mother who doesn't know how to eat, but it would be worth it.

Gileswithachainsaw · 17/12/2015 07:40

Obviously that doesn't give people the right to be antisocial, but eating with your mouth open doesn't really fall into that bracket

see i think you are wrong there.

I use public transport alot. I can block put most things. Kids crying, loud talking, arguments with girlfriends, kids banging feet against the wheel humps etc

but I really can't stand- loud chewing or heavy breathing/puffing/wheezing in my ear.

sounds are just annoying bit the sight and sound of out contents and slurping etc cab make you actually feel nauseous. which puts it on a different level to general public noise and disruption

Lucymatilde · 17/12/2015 07:41

You can tell very well who is eating with their mouth open by the noise. You don't have to be looking at them.

claraschu · 17/12/2015 07:44

When I come across someone behaving in a way I don't like, I only tell off a child if I would also tell off an adult behaving in that way.

If people of any age hurt other people or animals, scream abuse, or litter, I feel like I should say something (not always brave enough). Other offenses get a glare (seat kicking, talking in concerts, loud music, repulsive chewing). Some things I don't mention to strangers (whether they are children or adults): loud laughing in restaurants, forgetting to say "please" and "thank you", etc.

Sometimes I also glare at adults behaving like kids, even though kids behaving like that wouldn't bother me.

Vanderwaals · 17/12/2015 07:46

Okay I accept I'm unreasonable.
He did have his mouth open, I turned around and looked. Checking it wasnt a pig - there was a lot of lip smacking noises.
Usually wear earphones but I have an ear infection, so probably am more sensitive to noises atm.

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FragileBrittleStar · 17/12/2015 07:47

I can't stand chewing noises. I had to move carriages the other day because of a chewer (adult woman)

Aeroflotgirl · 17/12/2015 07:47

Yabvvu get a taxi if you don't like sounds, yiu cannot tell people what to do. I would tell somebody off if I saw them spitting in the street, Adults or kids, nasty dirty habit.

Sirzy · 17/12/2015 07:48

Yabu.

It isn't nice, I hate it. However I also have a child with special needs who really struggles with eating no matter how much I remind/encourage him he just can't do it.

He also had a horrible tendency to have noisy breathing and wheezing though often with coughing thrown in so I better just keep him out of public it seems

theycallmemellojello · 17/12/2015 07:48

Is it likely to have been a pig? On a train? Sorry for your condition but dehumanising people is not a good way to deal with it.

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LynetteScavo · 17/12/2015 07:49

My mum would have told him to eat with his mouth closed. She would also have engaged him in conversation and told him lots if useless "facts" about chips.

Blacktealeaves · 17/12/2015 07:50

I think yanbu to find it incredibly annoying.

But you probably can't say anything. Sorry.

Vanderwaals · 17/12/2015 07:51

And don't say get a taxi/drive. I do drive but the journey is over 2 hours through central London. (1 hour on train)

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