to think one update from nursery in 3 months is not enough?

[HogglesFriend]

Since my DD moved into the toddler room at nursery in September, her online learning journal has been updated once - this week and I think only because I asked last week whether the nursery was still using it!

When she was in the baby room, they used to update it every other week or so and I loved reading about what she had been doing and seeing the pictures. They also used to do a written assessment of her progress every couple of months and give us 'next steps' ideas about what we could be doing with her at home to help her develop.

Since moving into the toddler room, we have had very limited feedback. I ask on pick-up every day if she has behaved herself and I'm told every time that she's an angel. I find this very hard to believe as she can be a little monkey at home and we rarely get through a morning without a tantrum! She has learnt how to say 'sorry' since moving into that room and we've not taught it her so I'm assuming she has been up to something in nursery that require ms an apology! Other than that, the nursery workers are not very forthcoming with information. Maybe I'm being a little PFB but I expected to get more feedback than 'she's an angel' and one comment on her journal about her being able to turn pages in a book (she's been doing this for over a year!) in 3 months.

Am I expecting too much? What kind of info do parents with children in nursery receive about the progress of their child?

[elliejjtiny]

YANBU. My DS is 2.5 and I get a few sentences written in his home communication book each day he goes. Ratios are high there though, 1 adult to every 2 children.

[LittleBearPad]

Just talk to the staff about her progress.

[CrohnicallyAspie]

I chat with the staff every day at pick up, just to hear what she's eaten and a little about what she's been doing (eg she's spent a lot of time at the cutting and sticking table today).

We don't have an online learning journal, just a folder in nursery. This has little bits added quite frequently, maybe once or twice a week on average there is a photo or comment added. Once a month a more formal/detailed observation is added.

Every 3 months there is a progress review against the development matters criteria- I presume this is the same as the ones you had in the baby room.

[fredfredgeorgejnrsnr]

You need to ask questions that lead to information, and not "did she behave herself" - which seems an odd fixation for toddler, rather than "what did she enjoy playing with?", "who did she pretend to be today?", "what was the most exciting thing she found?" etc.

I'm sure she has tantrums, she's a toddler, they do, the nursery will have seen loads.

That's not to say it's unreasonable to expect feedback, but you should ask about what you want to know, not simply if she's been good.

[KeepSmiling83]

I just wanted to add that my DD could be a little minx at home but was always as good as gold in nursery (so they told me!) I do believe them as I'm a teacher and the number of parents who question me when I tell them that their child is very well behaved in school is unbelievable. I think a lot of children are well behaved in nursery/school and then let it all out at home!

[Naty1]

wish mine behaved better at school.
maybe ask if they have a paper copy with more detail.
on dds learning diary you can see the comments about behaviours that count towards the criteria and the age related score.

[QuiteLikely5]

Most good nurseries have a standard procedure on feedback. Everyday mine tell me: what they did, how much they ate, if ds had a sleep and for how long!

He was at another nursery that was too blasé about it for my liking.

Talk to the manager. Although I find these things are a symptom of rubbish management tbh