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AIBU to not offer a cup of tea?

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perrita Tue 15-Dec-15 18:03:29

DH and I have own business and had a visitor coming to our office today, who we are paying for their time. I don't really drink tea or coffee so never have these items at the office (no kettle either although there is a communal kettle in a communal kitchen at opposite end of building) and it didn't occur to me to bring them in so I didn't offer them anything to drink, they were here about 1-1.5 hours.

DH asked how it went and asked if I offered them a drink. Adv no. I just didn't think about it. He's annoyed I didn't, said it makes us look bad.

If it was a client or potential client I would agree and would have even bought posh biscuits for them but AIBU to think that it's not up to me to make cups of tea for people we are paying? When I'm at work I wouldn't expect people to make drinks for me, if they offered I might say yes but wouldn't be offended if they didn't. Id take my own drink with me for the day and wouldn't rely on other people providing my refreshments.

DH thinks I'm BU, I think he is, who's right??

Sirzy Tue 15-Dec-15 18:07:16

I think the polite thing to do would have been to offer a drink.

usual Tue 15-Dec-15 18:07:21

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whois Tue 15-Dec-15 18:08:14

Bottle of water would be polite but no need for tea/coffee for a 1.5h meeting.

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant Tue 15-Dec-15 18:09:06

I don't drink tea or coffee either, so I don't have them at home.

I do have a kettle, for baby milk and cup-a-soup!

I would have probably given them a glass of fruit juice if they wanted it or not

I would have offered them something, but explained there was nothing hot on offer.

GloGirl Tue 15-Dec-15 18:09:15

I agree with your DH. Have a couple of water bottles stashed away to offer next time and say you don't have tea and coffee facilities and ask if they would like a water instead.

cuntycowfacemonkey Tue 15-Dec-15 18:09:44

I think YABU on the basis that you would do it for for some people but didn't think the person visiting "ranked" as worthy

ZenNudist Tue 15-Dec-15 18:09:53

It's polite to offer drinks or at least apologise in true British fashion for having no tea making facilities. Would it have killed you to offer a glass of water. Fwiw the person would have bought their own drink if they thought they'd be in need and probably didn't mind for only 1.5h.

Sallyhasleftthebuilding Tue 15-Dec-15 18:10:51

I think its rude not to offer. Just bad manners.
Dont know why people think making tea or offering a drink to anyone is beneath them. Its what makes us human.

2rebecca Tue 15-Dec-15 18:12:57

I would. To me meetings are tea and coffee drinking times but I'm a tea and coffee drinker. Going to someone's office for over an hour and not being offered a drink would seem odd to me and I'd probably feel I wasn't valued (which they weren't)

someonestolemynick Tue 15-Dec-15 18:14:43

I perform a service in people's homes and offices. 99% of my clients offer me a drink before the session.
It is, of course, your right to not to offer a drink. But I tend to notice and it's a but of an indicator for me wrt to how socially aware a client is. A little consideration goes a long way.

SwedishEdith Tue 15-Dec-15 18:15:20

Bad manners. I'm with your husband.

WickedWax Tue 15-Dec-15 18:16:54

Interesting insight into what you think of ppl you are paying/employing vs potential clients. I don't think I'd like to work for you.

SevenOfNineTrue Tue 15-Dec-15 18:17:15

You should always have basic things like tea, coffee and water to offer visitors to a business, paid or not.

midnightsunshine Tue 15-Dec-15 18:17:24

It's rude not to offer. Doesn't matter if you don't drink tea or coffee yourself! It looks thoughtless or lazy not to. A hot drink is a universal ice-breaker.

I offer everyone coming to my house a cup of tea/coffee whether it's the HV or a builder or a friend popping in. It takes minutes to make.
When we ran a business from home we ALWAYS offered tea/coffee and biscuits to clients, staff, interns or anyone visiting.

RakeMeHomeCountryToads Tue 15-Dec-15 18:18:06

I would definitely have offered them tea or coffee, biscuits too!

Sparkletastic Tue 15-Dec-15 18:18:23

I would at least offer water.

shinynewusername Tue 15-Dec-15 18:20:17

You will get the most out of people - whether or not you are paying for their time - if you put them at their ease. As midnight says, offering a drink is an ice-breaker.

firesidechat Tue 15-Dec-15 18:21:14

Always offer a drink. Apart from anything else it gives a good impression (that you care about people's comfort) and it breaks the ice.

goodnightdarthvader1 Tue 15-Dec-15 18:23:02

Rude not to offer a drink. I've gone to job interviews where they didn't offer a glass of water. Put me right off.

Atenco Tue 15-Dec-15 18:23:31

So you would only offer a cup of tea to someone if there was something in it for you?

I'm criticising you for forgetting to offer tea, just don't agree with your reasoning.

AliciaMayEmory Tue 15-Dec-15 18:28:25

Interesting insight into what you think of ppl you are paying/employing vs potential clients. I don't think I'd like to work for you.

^this, absolutely.

Cressandra Tue 15-Dec-15 18:30:39

It's polite to offer, and people you are paying are still people who may have caffeine needs fsmile

I offer to interviewees and tradespeople as well as potential clients.

Flumplet Tue 15-Dec-15 18:32:27

Bit stingey not to offer anything at all imo.

toffeeboffin Tue 15-Dec-15 18:32:38

DH is right.

You should have offered at least a coffee/tea and water, if not a biscuit too.

It's just good PR.

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