DH works long hours so it's often just me and our four DC and I cope just fine. I know he's probably trying to compensate for his absence but when he is here he really gets on my nerves by treating me as though I'm incapable of anything.
Some examples:
I'll go to check the road to cross and he'll grab my arm to stop me/tell me when to cross
He insists on driving but on the rare occasion he's passenger he's constantly checking mirrors and guiding me
If I go to put my drink down he'll reach for it to put it down for me, often spilling it
If we're getting in the car he'll keep saying for me to take the baby so he can fold the pushchair - as if I don't do this task about six times a day when he's not there!?
If I'm emptying the bin he'll literally crouch over me saying I'll do that, here let me help etc. Tonight I didn't realise he was hovering and actually headbutted him he was so close.
After approximately the fifth time of him preventing me from leaning to check to cross the road today I said 'I've no idea how I survive when you're at work (!)' and he looked put out and mumbled 'I'm just trying to help.' Yet later when there's four kids to get fed, bathed and into bed he's just standing there fiddling with his phone...!
Aibu to be irritated by him acting like he's my saviour when he's here or a hitch for not being grateful at his attempts to help?
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to be irritated by DH treating me like I'm useless?
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livvielunch · 14/12/2015 21:53
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