Ds is age 6, last year Y1, we received his school report to say he was above expectation in all subjects and that his IT work was Y6 level. (sorry this is important).
However since reception year, ds has had massive communication issues.
Background He had severe speech and language delay, he was only signed off by ST in the summer of this year, he has been in intensive ST for 3 years,(18 months ago he could not speak two words together) had had multiple long term hospital admissions, due to many reasons (burns, acute allergies. asthma...think life saving operations and many blue lights Resus admissions.
So communication is getting better now that he can verbally say what's his needs/wants are, however emotionally he can still have tantrums because of the frustration, it is getting better, (2 maybe 3 times since the summer) and one of those was at school on Friday.
Also I think it is how he is used to venting his frustrations, so behaviour that we/he are vastly improving on.
On Friday a little girl kept telling him over and over that she had put him on Santa's naughty list, and because of that Santa was not visiting his house, the more ds protested the more this girl said that ds was on the naughty list, by this point ds was in distress and could not handle the situation and broke down in tears and had in the teachers words a "toddler tantrum" (teacher did say that ds was not misbehaving)
I stated to the teacher that its something that we are working on, and he is getting better however ds really struggles with communication (he has a one2one in his school for this reason)
for example, ds cant tell me what he would like to do for the day, or tell me what he would like for Christmas, or what he would like for his dinner, what game he would like to play etc... you need to give ds options, he just cant think of a way to communicate what he wants/needs to do, it all has to be guided options.
When I was sayng all this, all of a sudden she said that she was worried about ds's writing and reading and that he is only at the expected level of half way through Y1 in these subjects (even tho his Y1 report cards says he is above expected levels)
It was completely unexpected we had no idea ds was struggling, I asked what way could I help ds at home, she just continued to say that when doing book reports ds can't write the story line of the book, I said again that this all boils down to ds not being able to process his thoughts/needs and wants and that I mention this, at every single meeting I have with the school, he is just unable to do it.
However she then just changed the subject and said that ds is very good in class, he always wants to please, never ever in trouble, follows school rules etc... a lovely boy to be around, however we need to deal with the one temper tantrum he has in school (this school year) and also working on his reading and writing... and that was that! Totally skipped over his communication issues!
AIBU to be annoyed, I knew nothing that he is nearly a half year behind his expected targets for his age, and also that once again the communication issues have been ignored.
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MsJamieFraser · 14/12/2015 17:57
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