Ds just turned 5 and is very settled at school. He was a very normal, healthy pregnancy and delivery - but took around 2 years to conceive due to pcos (this time included hospital appointments, diagnosis, weight loss etc).
I've loved being able to give him all my time and of course he's the best thing that's ever happened to me. Part of me wonders if I could love another child as much.
Dh has always said he doesn't want another, he's 10 years older than me and has 2 teenagers from his previous marriage. He's been a great hands on dad to our ds, but has found certain phases harder than me. We've had a lot of adjustment and compromise to go through in our parenting styles but have come through it and are very happy.
I've been feeling my biological clock tick tocking away as I edge towards 37 and my friends have all had a second or are heavily pregnant. Dh and I had a big conversation on Friday and I explained that it's not rational, but I just don't want to get to 40 and regret not even trying. By 'trying' I just mean coming off the pill and seeing what happens. I've been on the pill since 15 (to control acne at first) with the exception of the 3 year break for ds and I'm fed up with the 'unnaturalness' of it. I am beginning to feel my body getting older. I do understand dh's feelings and have stated I'll love him whatever and love our family as it is anyway so wouldn't be desperately disappointed if it stayed the same. He's said there's a lot to think about but he understands my feelings and could get used to the idea of another child - he'd love it and be a proud dad all over again etc. I know he's putting my feelings first and would have concerns about our relationship.
I haven't yet properly decided but wanted to ask if there are other people in the same position, or have been, what kind of age gap you have between your dc and how you found going from 1 to 2 at an older age.
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LittleLionMansMummy · 14/12/2015 07:51
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