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To take wedding ring back after less than 4 months?

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mehbridezilla Sun 13-Dec-15 17:49:11

A genuine Aibu, as I have no idea if this is just one of those things I have to suck up. I got married at the end of August (yay) and spent what I consider to be a lot do money at the local jeweller on a ring. I spent a long time choosing one, my main concerns were that it be hardwearing and that it fit with my engagement ring which is quite an unusual shape. The one I chose is palladium (hardwearing) and pretty flat, which meant the ring fit with it. It's also half surrounded with small diamonds. It was £360 but I got it down to £320 ish. On Saturday one of the diamonds fell out sad one of the questions I specifically asked was if the other ring slightly overlapping would make this more likely and I was told no. And, ironically, it's the diamond ridpght at the edge, so it wasn't rubbed by the other at all. I know in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter, but I chose this to last me forever and I'm peeved that it didn't even last four months! The lady in the shop was lovely but I really don't have any fight in me at the moment due to other things going on, so is it ok to even ask about a refund so I can pick something plainer? I'll try and add a picture of the ring.

mehbridezilla Sun 13-Dec-15 17:50:44

Forgive shocking state of hands

honeysucklejasmine Sun 13-Dec-15 17:53:22

Of course YANBU!

PegsPigs Sun 13-Dec-15 17:55:08

My wedding ring has diamonds all the way round sort of eternity ring esque. I've been married over 5 years and none had fallen out. YANBU.

SummerNights1986 Sun 13-Dec-15 17:55:30

I find picking a different wedding ring a really odd concept tbh. A woman I work with has 'updated' her wedding ring twice during her marriage and I just don't get it.

My wedding ring is really, really precious to me...because that's the actual ring that I was wearing at our wedding. It's the one that was blessed (OK I get this may not be as important for some), the one that DH put on my finger. That's part of what makes it special. To trade it in for something else is buying myself jewellery.

In your shoes I would get it fixed but not replaced.

Daffodil90 Sun 13-Dec-15 17:55:33

I'd at least go in and talk to them about an exchange if they can't offer a refund. You may end up paying a bit more but if it's broken within 4 months then I doubt the rest of it is going to last forever either :/

It doesn't have to be a confrontation, just say you're disappointed in the quality, the reasons you picked it and what you were told. I'm sure they would be reasonable or at least offer to fix it for free. 4 months is far too quick for a product of that value/supposed quality.

Oh and congratulations!

HerbieRidesAgain Sun 13-Dec-15 17:56:03

YADNBU - take it back, and get it repaired. Beautiful ring

Penfold007 Sun 13-Dec-15 17:56:18

16 weeks!!!! YANBU take it back

Allice Sun 13-Dec-15 17:57:41

Absolutely take it back!
My wedding ring is half eternity and I've been wearing it over 13 years, it's all completely fine.

mehbridezilla Sun 13-Dec-15 17:58:42

Summer nights, I feel exactly the same way which is why I feel so bad about it. I haven't taken it off, and intended never to do so, which is why the skin under it looks so bad! But I'm worried that the other stones will start to fall out too. Dh isn't so precious about his, takes it off all the time, but I did tell the shop I wanted hard wearing.

TheHiphopopotamus Sun 13-Dec-15 18:04:39

Take it back!

Did you have it sized up or down by the way?

mehbridezilla Sun 13-Dec-15 18:07:57

No, it's not been altered at all, I bought it off the shelf. I spent all day yesterday feeling a bit resigned but now I feel sad too. I don't feel confident that this won't happen again, but a new wedding ring won't ever be the ring I got married with. I need to get a grip. I don't even know where the diamond is, it's so tiny I haven't a hope of finding it sad

TheHiphopopotamus Sun 13-Dec-15 18:13:27

Ah, that's even worse. That style of ring does have a tendency to lose stones if they've been sized.

I completely understand the sentimentality of wanting to keep the ring that you were married in. There is a chance that they may be able to secure the stones so that it won't happen again. They should definitely replace the one that was lost. Absolutely take it back though, see what they say and go from there.

ChesterFuckingDraws Sun 13-Dec-15 18:19:08

Definately take it back, you shouldn't need to fight to get it repaired/replaced as it's clearly faulty.
I had to take my engagement ring back twice due to a fault then eventually had to change it for a different style as the shops were unable to fix it properly.
I was sad that the ring used to propose wasnt going to be mine forever but now I'm so glad I changed it as I really couldn't be doing with the hassle of a faulty ring and being worried about wearing (I too needed a hard wearing ring due to work)
When I got this ring we had a wee pretend proposal in the house, so it was special 😳

KatyN Sun 13-Dec-15 18:23:50

Do you trust the jewellers?? I had my engagement ring resized by a complete muppet (had dabbled in silversmithing and I could have done a better job). No way I was letting them get their hands on it again so I went to a local guy who i really liked his work and totally trusted. Meant I paid for the work which would have been free if I took it back to the original shop but in the grand scheme of getting married the cost wasn't significant.
So I would say it depends, if you want compensation from the shop then go back and loose your rag- 4 months is unacceptable. If you just want your wedding ring to be right, take it somewhere else and defo don't go back there for your eternity ring!!!
Congratulations x

Champagneformyrealfriends Sun 13-Dec-15 18:28:57

Just read your post-looked at my rings and realised two little diamonds are missing from the shoulders of my e-ring! So thank you for your post lol going to the jewellers tomorrow. And I've had my ring 2 years so if I'm going back you definitely should!! Xx

mehbridezilla Sun 13-Dec-15 18:29:28

Katy, I don't know what I want really, but I need to decide that before I go in the shop don't i? I have no idea if I should trust them, they're a family business that's certainly been in my town for at my town for as long as I can remember, so 25+ years. I don't think they'd manage to stay open if they were generally rubbish. I was so grateful to them too as I went in there several times and dithered over having such a limited choice, this was one of only two rings that fit the bill, the other was more than twice the price! So do I want a refund or do I want it fixed? No idea. Helpfully. I don't know which is more reasonable to ask for. I'm just glad I still have the receipt, I found it in my jewellery box just the other day.

PurpleWithRed Sun 13-Dec-15 18:32:13

Go back with the receipt and I am sure they will be mortified at what's happened and fall over themselves to sort it out.

unimaginativename13 Sun 13-Dec-15 18:32:25

You should defo return the ring but to ask for a different design is strange. It's like you want to change or not have it repaired. In that case you ABU.

mehbridezilla Sun 13-Dec-15 18:38:26

Unimaginative, not at all, I adore this ring. It fits perfectly with my engagement ring and I spent a lot of time picking it out, and I deliberately chose one on the basis that it would be hardwearing, as my engagement ring, which ironically cost more money, is white gold, I don't wear it everyday, and has already turned yellow. I didn't went to have to spend any money getting replated every few years, and I did specifically ask about the diamonds falling out. So to have just that happen, it feels like the whole things tainted. Maybe thats silly, but things are pretty crappy for me atm, I have a dd with severe special needs and my own health seems to have gone to pot recently, and it's just one more thing that's gone wrong. I didn't mean this thread to be a pity party. And I certainly hope the jewellers themselves don't think I'm trying it on. But I spent a lot of money for something that's pretty much ruined, that I now worry about wearing.

Fluffyears Sun 13-Dec-15 18:41:51

They should repair it for you. I love that people never take their rings off. My gran had a very thin cheap wedding ring as it was all they could afford, many years later my grandad bought her a newer more expensive and fancied ring but she always wore the old band. She wore both for the rest of her life. I have the original band with the engraving inside.

itsmeohlord Sun 13-Dec-15 19:07:38

Oh I get updating yoru wedding and engagement rings. I will be doing this next year after 30 years of the same ones. My husband and I are much better off now, going for something much more upmarket smile

And one of the diamonds fell out of my engagement ring last year!!

Greengardenpixie Sun 13-Dec-15 19:10:42

i have a cheap gold band. It has lasted 25+ years!!!!! The secret is, dont get it with diamonds in it. They imo could easily fall out with time unless you take off your rings when you wash up. I never do.
4 months is ridiculous

Greengardenpixie Sun 13-Dec-15 19:11:02

It is a beautiful wedding ring btw.

blankmind Sun 13-Dec-15 19:15:52

You love the ring, so why not have the stone in it replaced.

Take it back, ask them to check the settings of all the stones, ask them to replace the stone that fell out. It's so new that surely it should be under a guarantee?

Did you pay by credit-card? sometimes that gives you more 'consumer rights' in cases like this.

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