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Would I be unreasonable to not go to childs nativity?

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Loftsequin Wed 09-Dec-15 15:28:22

I feel unwell and it's a trek taking younger children. They say they aren't bothered if I go or not ...?

Aeroflotgirl Wed 09-Dec-15 15:31:14

I wouldent in those circumstances.

DrivingMissLazy1 Wed 09-Dec-15 15:41:55

Depends on what sort of unwell? I would want to go under any circumstances.

Daisysbear Wed 09-Dec-15 15:43:52

If you're really unwell don't go. If it's just that you're feeling tired and not 100% I would, personally, make the effort.

Loftsequin Wed 09-Dec-15 15:43:52

I hate them blush and I've already been to one performance this week so am feeling performed-d out.

manicinsomniac Wed 09-Dec-15 15:44:19

If your children genuinely aren't bothered then no, YANBU.

Are you sure they're not just saying that because they know you don't feel well, though? In my experience children get quite upset if there's no one there to watch them perform.

I've never really seen my children's school performances because I'm the drama teacher so I'm either backstage, in the lighting box or have my nose in the script. But it's only recently that even my oldest has started to realise that just because I'm there doesn't mean I'm watching her!

Owllady Wed 09-Dec-15 15:45:41

I missed one of my son's shows and he still hasn't forgiven me ten years on confused I personally hate them as well, but it seems important to children that you are there
I hope you feel better soon

Loftsequin Wed 09-Dec-15 15:47:32

Really? I was never bothered with my parents!

RictusGrimace Wed 09-Dec-15 15:47:47

You hate them? shock

Loftsequin Wed 09-Dec-15 15:54:02

Hate what, nativities? Yes, why are you shocked?

Owllady Wed 09-Dec-15 15:55:50

I hate them as well
It's the most mind dumbing thing ever confused
But then again, I'd never want to work with small children either. Not my thing

ghnocci Wed 09-Dec-15 15:57:58

How can anybody hate watching their child in a nativity?!

SanityClause Wed 09-Dec-15 15:59:08

I love them, and cry every time.

Poor Mary - imagine giving birth in a stable!

(My DC are now too old for nativities sad)

Loftsequin Wed 09-Dec-15 16:02:17

I'm with owl fsmile

Owllady Wed 09-Dec-15 16:12:30

Venturing out in the dark and cold
The pushing and gushing parents
Overcrowded hall
The smell of farts
The cat chorus
The confusion of where child is after
Walking home in the rain
The whinging overtired child later?

Bah humbug grin

Loftsequin Wed 09-Dec-15 16:14:09

And the too loud piano and the screaming babies one of which is mine and the fact I am short and never get to see anything and child hates it as much as me ...


Owllady Wed 09-Dec-15 16:15:25

Yes, you know that child crying on stage? That's my youngest that is!

Loftsequin Wed 09-Dec-15 16:16:58

Mine just stands there glowering at everyone! grin I know he's just nervous but if you didn't know he's (honestly!) a really lovely kid you'd think he was a future psychopath in the making!

Aeroflotgirl Wed 09-Dec-15 16:17:44

If op is unwell, and doesent drive, having to trudge younger kids, who might probably be playing up during the performance, plus your children told you they weren't fussed. In those circumstances, I would not.

pictish Wed 09-Dec-15 16:18:46

One day there will be no more nativities to go to. You may be thinking 'if only!' now, but you'll miss it.

Mehitabel6 Wed 09-Dec-15 16:19:25

I don't understand how anyone could want to miss seeing their child in a nativity play- I love them even with other people's children.
I would make the effort whatever the difficulties- so sad for the child otherwise- whatever they might say to you.

Loftsequin Wed 09-Dec-15 16:19:38

Hmm - I don't think so pictish! grin

I will miss some stuff but the primary school nativity is not one of them!

ArmfulOfRoses Wed 09-Dec-15 16:20:53

It's the harvest festivals I despise.
2 more to go...

pictish Wed 09-Dec-15 16:21:06

Aww...I find it a grind every year, but i still go. All the childrens voices raised in song.... <sob>

Owllady Wed 09-Dec-15 16:21:58

My older two are 16 & 14. Erm nope grin it's just forced plays. I hate them
The end of year play at lower school was excruciating (for another one of my children) it went on for hours and hours!

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