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AIBU?

To not be happy about my 10 year old seeing Spectre?

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startingallover · 05/12/2015 00:13

Dd is ten and off to see Spectre first thing tomorrow morning with her friends for one of the girl's party. I've just looked it up out of curiosity and really don't like what I've read or seen. A lot of people mention the gouging of eyes scene, that it's violent etc. Obviously it will be full of swearing? A lot of people have said it is unappropriate for under 12s which I guess makes sense as it is rated 12. I've only just realised this tonight.

The film just isn't our style and I suspect my daughter won't enjoy it. But we're due to leave first thing so I guess tickets will be brought and it would be unreasonable to pull out now? Or am I just being too precious. We saw the Minions last week and she's never seen a violent film. My daughter said she wasn't overly keen to see this film and would prefer to see something like our usual films eg penguins of Madagascar. Why do children have to be exposed to this stuff so early? Do I just need to give myself a shake and get over it? Reality check needed please.

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thewavesofthesea · 05/12/2015 00:27

It's a good film, but apart from anything I would think a group of 10 year old girls would find it boring!! Seems a strange choice of film.

It is violent in parts though; a couple of bits in it made me shudder a bit; most of the violence is gunfighting and not that gory though.

thewavesofthesea · 05/12/2015 00:28

If it was me I would be tempted to explain my concerns to the parents. Perhaps they don't know what it is about ? Although if you have known for a while then maybe you should have done something a little sooner!

Canyouforgiveher · 05/12/2015 00:34

I've seen it. I think it is not a film for a 10 year old in that parts of it are unsuitable (violence/torture - wouldn't think the sex will bother them) but not the worst I've seen.

Mostly I think it would be an incredibly boring film for 10 year olds - think the parents here just had a parenting fail which half way through the film opening credits, they will realise.

christinarossetti · 05/12/2015 00:34

Will the cinema let 10 year olds into see a 12_rated film?

TurnOffTheTv · 05/12/2015 00:43

They won't let them in if its a 12 anyway.

TurnOffTheTv · 05/12/2015 00:45

Actually just looked, and it's only a 12a.

Pobspits · 05/12/2015 00:46

It's a 12A I think. My Ds (almost 9) has seen it and loved it. He's VERY sensitive and a bit of a scaredy cat (eg terrified of Dr Who) but was fine with this. I wouldn't be concerned really though I suppose I was a bit how he would react initially.

Asteria36 · 05/12/2015 00:48

I wouldn't let dsd watch it and we are quite relaxed

mum11970 · 05/12/2015 00:48

My 10 yr old boy loved it. To be honest he's rather a sensitive boy and it didn't bother him in the slightest.

OfficeGirl1969 · 05/12/2015 04:59

Don't remember there being any swearing. Yes there's the eye gouging bit, but other than some shooting and fighting I don't think it's too horrid for ten year olds. I just feel as above that it's probably just not going to be very appealing to a group of little girls!

FishWithABicycle · 05/12/2015 05:23

She may be fine with it.
Make sure she takes a book, and tell her it's fine to go and sit outside the screen and read if she is too scared or upset to watch (most cinemas around our way have sofas in the corridor)

OneInEight · 05/12/2015 07:31

With the caveat that I don't like this type of film anyway I thought this one had far too many scenes of sadistic torture in it - gouging out eyeballs and the like. Not pleasant viewing for me anyway.

Kittykatmacbill · 05/12/2015 07:44

Wow for a ten year bdayparty?
Dh and I went to see it on a rare date night and we talked about how grateful we were had girls, so unlike boys, they wouldn't be wanting to see things like that too early - maybe.

But honestly it was really violent I would put it on a par with terminator. Nothing like James Bonds that are on at Christmas...

skippy67 · 05/12/2015 07:46

No swearing. Bit violent. Too long! I think they'll be more bored than shocked.

ProjectPerfect · 05/12/2015 07:52

My 9 & 10 year old loved it - it was the first film they've watched which wasn't animated so I was surprised they enjoyed it as much as they did.

ProjectPerfect · 05/12/2015 07:53

It was not even close to terminator in terms of violence

Aposey · 05/12/2015 10:12

Hmn, Im not far off 30 and I found it a bit violent/scary! Maybe Im a real scaredycat! I definitely couldn't have coped with it at 12. You know your child and what she can deal with. Make sure she knows she doesn't have to watch anything she doesn't want to- I got pressured into watching and reading the Woman in Black at secondary school as it was part of the curriculum and found it really traumatic, I still get panic attacks at night occasionally.

But then I also remember being scared witless by the Mummy so maybe Im just a bit delicate!

TimeToMuskUp · 05/12/2015 10:19

DS1 is 10 and watched it with DH and I (we'd watched it the week before to check it beforehand, I tend to do that with films rated 12 as I'm a bit picky about what he watches). He loved it and wasn't upset/bored/scared by any of it.

Enjolrass · 05/12/2015 10:24

I don't remember lots of swearing. Fairly violent, but nothing that shocked me that I can remember.

It's a 12A, which I think is a bit of a cop out and confusing for parents.

I would let dd watch it (now 11) but I suspect she would get bored.

It was a good film but did seem to drag a bit.

SarahSavesTheDay · 05/12/2015 10:25

My 9 & 10 year old loved it - it was the first film they've watched which wasn't animated so I was surprised they enjoyed it as much as they did.

Your ten year old has never seen anything but an animated film until now?

I'm pretty sure my 9 year old saw it with my husband. He's seen most (if not all) the Bond films.

JellyBabiesSaveLives · 05/12/2015 10:31

If she's only ever seen things like Minions I would a) cancel and offer to pay for her unused ticket or b) go with her.

My 10yo ds has seen lots of 12a-rated - all the superhero type ones. I won't let him watch the Bond ones. The violence is way less cartoony. Longer scenes of deliberate careful torture; violence that tries to get you to think about it rather than cartoon-explosions.

It depends so much on the child, but you haven't seen it and your child isn't used to this type of film.

mumeeee · 05/12/2015 10:33

All 12s in cinemas are actually 12a and under 12s have to have an adult with them.
Are these 10 year olds going by themselves or are the birthday parents going with them?
A lot of 10 year olds would like it but if your 10 year old has only seen animated films up to now she might find it a bit scary. Can you have a word with the birthday girls parents before she goes?

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scarlets · 05/12/2015 10:33

I wouldn't pull out of a party at this late stage.

ProjectPerfect · 05/12/2015 10:41

sarah "your ten year old has never seen anything but an animated film until now"

Nope, before Spectre I don't think she had. Movies tend to be family affairs and with younger siblings we usually watch something that is suitable for all, so a focus on Disney. She's quite happy watching for example Inside Out.

In part it's because she's not really fussed by movies - for example she loved reading hunger games and the maze runner but has no interest in seeing the films.

I don't think she's that unusual....

TheBunnyOfDoom · 05/12/2015 12:15

It is unusual, I think. There are hundreds of non-animated kids movies. Matilda, Nanny McPhee, Elf, the Grinch, plus a huge number of Disney films as well. I'm very surprised that she's never seen any of those EVER.

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