DH mentioned he'd like to take 9yo DS somewhere tomorrow.
Its a show, crowds, noise, lots of people, long drive as part of the motorway is shut for maintenance all weekend, then a bus trip from the carparks to the arena. Its somewhere we usually go as a family, but i just do NOT want to go this year, and have told DH he's not taking DS either.
My reason is this.
DS has autism, adhd, sensory processing issues and is rather volatile at the moment with frequent meltdowns. He physically attacked me earlier this week during one.
DH does NOT have good history with coping with DS during a meltdown, even less so in public. Its usually me who deals with it while DH walks away as he finds them embarrassing and gets annoyed, whereas DS needs calm and comfort to help bring him down, especially when people stare/comment (which is what DH struggles with)
We have never been to this show without DS having a meltdown.
Considering this, i am NOT willing to let DH take DS by himself, nor am i willing to relent on my decision not to go (i have hip/back problems and walking around all day is not an option atm)
I've told DH if he wants to go he can take DD, but he feels that's unfair to DS, so i told him he could always go by himself, but he doesn't want to as its more fun with other people.
So now DH is sulking about it a little, but i don't think IABU, it's not about whether they'll have fun, its about DH knowing he doesn't know how to deal with DS during a public meltdown.
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To think i'm right, or should i relent?
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Skullyton · 04/12/2015 20:51
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