to ask him to stop moaning, or say nowt?

[TeaFathers]

DB has become quite moany in the last few years.

He recently moved from one (nice) part of the UK to another (very nice part). His choice. Used to be able to work part time but now has to work full time in his new (good) job, because they wont let him go p/t.
He is married and his partner has an amazing, 6 figure job.
They are very well off, have no children (their choice) and no mortgage/debt. No health problems.

He moans at every opportunity about working full time, the 40 minute commute to work, getting the new house finished to the required standard, and the BIG one - not having any free time and being tired from working f/t.

I'm finding it increasingly hard to listen to. Even DM made a comment the other week.
he has a lovely life and all the things so many people have to learn to live without.
should i give him a kick in the arse or just keep my mouth shut, when we all have to listen to him cribbing over Xmas?

[TendonQueen]

Make sure the TV is permanently tuned to all the Noel Edmunds type programmes about people who've had a terrible year and are now getting rewarded because of it, and keep repeating 'we should count our blessings shouldn't we?' And point out every time the Save the Children ads come on that we're so lucky compared to others. Refer back to them every time he moans.

[RB68]

He needs a reality check!

[m0therofdragons]

To be fair I'd hate his life - I'm not driven by money so long as I have enough so working ft and not having and dc is not a life I'd envy. I would just turn round and say "well you're clearly and intelligent guy; do something about it and sort out the balance so it works for you." Or just laugh and say "oh dear let's get the violins. Middle class problems alert."

[howabout]

Ignore him and change the subject. Every time he moans introduce something positive in your own situation into the conversation. No reason to indulge him or kick him in the arse.

[Lucyccfc]

I used to have a friend like this.

I got really bored of listening to the negativity all the time, so just used the same phrase every time 'If you don't like it, then change it' Quickly followed by a change of subject. It's really draining when some one is so negative all the time.