I have a 2.5 year old DS. Exh and I have been split for 2 years due to domestic abuse.
He pays me £150 per month in maintenance, this was done informally as when we calculated it it was about the same and I wanted to avoid a fight.
DSs nursery fees are £950 per month (full time). His parents very very kindly give pay £150 towards this every month.
I have a great relationship with his mum, but he is as abusive to her as he is to me. Earlier this week he escalated in his abusive behaviour to her and they have decided to withdraw their support.
I totally understand this and I know how awfully he has been treating them, but as part of this they have decided no more nursery money.
This means that that portion of the fees are now late, and I need to find £150 before Christmas. I don't have any money left over at the best of times. I can't get any more in tax credits because of my earnings.
I pay the rest of the nursery fees, rent, provide all clothe, food, nappies, all that a toddler needs. I have text ex to say that this is due to his unreasonable behaviour, that his parents have been perfectly happy (it was their idea!) to help financially up until now, I still get on well with them and I am the one who is now going to struggle.
I hate being financially dependent on them but I work my arse off and still don't have money left over, how am I going to cover this?? Why should it be me who has to deal with this because he can't treat his mother with respect??
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Mooey89 · 04/12/2015 13:24
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