Hello mumsnetters this is my first post, apologies if I ramble on a bit.
Bit of backstory-
I was with a guy for a month nothing serious but fell pregnant by accident we decided not to be together and he was very nasty to me, shouted at me saying I had fallen pregnant on purpose, demanded I get an abortion, would ignore me for weeks,he pretty much acted like a stroppy child.
I made sure I kept him updated with the pregnancy and said from day one he could be as involved as much as he liked, then told me he didn't want to be involved. I told him if that was his decision he should be 100% sure but then turned round and said he did want to be involved but wanted a DNA test (no doubt she is his) he also didn't contact me at all the day my dd was born even after I had sent messages and pictures.
So basically we don't have the best relationship but I've always maintained contact as I know it's the right thing for my dd.
Thank you for reading this far!
So getting to the point for his first time meeting our dd when she was 5 weeks old I Let him stay at mine in (what will be) dd's room as she was in with me and he told me he had no money, to be honest I felt a bit bad as it was his first time meeting her and he lives 4 hours away and doesn't drive.
He has now asked if he can come down again, dd who is now 13 weeks and is going into her own room soon and my house is small I don't really have the room unless I moved round the whole living room, he does have a job now (though not paying any maintenance) and I'm not sure what to do.
I keep going between feeling bad as I live quite a distance from him to thinking surely other people don't let there ex's stay overnight.
So my question is would you let your ex stay at your house or would you ask him to find somewhere else to stay?
(Sorry its so long)
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AIBU for not letting him stay?
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Augustbaby22 · 03/12/2015 22:10
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