I've just been made an offer to study midwifery at my local university. I've been working soooo hard for this and I should be over the moon. The problem is that my mother and I have just had a very uncharacteristic row about it and it's really upset me and made me doubt my choice.
The situation is that I'm a mature student and am a single mother to three young children. Their father is very involved, we co-parent well, and I have really supportive friends. I'm under no illusions that it will be tough and complicated but I'm prepared for that and also prepared that it might be even harder than I've prepared for...! I was worried that I didn't have my mother's full support so I questioned it and she told me that she was worried about the children and that they would suffer. I know that she has - and does - feel guilt about working while we were small and even now that her job (that she does not enjoy) means that she does not have enough time for us (her perception; mine is more that I worry for her doing a job that she dislikes as I believe it affects her mental health).
Until now I have been a teacher and don't want to go back to that - and would rather my children see me enjoying working hard at something I love rather than resenting having to work harder at something I don't want to do. I can't stay at home with them forever and don't want to teach - and really really want to be a midwife!
Sooooo, AIBU to think I can do this, or does she have a point? She won't answer my calls and I'm gutted, we never do this.
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IASM · 03/12/2015 14:29
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