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Obsessed with having a baby and don't know if it's normal

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Riley2015 Thu 03-Dec-15 12:42:19

Hi im 27 and been ttc for 4 months. I can't wait to be a mum it's all I think about and feel sad all the time that I'm not one yet. I feel jealous of my friends and anyone that has young children sad

nightandthelight Thu 03-Dec-15 12:49:54

Completely normal Riley! If you go on the conception boards you will find lots of women in the same boat smile Wishing you all the best and a beautiful baby very soon smile

Whatdoidohelp Thu 03-Dec-15 12:52:34

It's been 4 months! Calm down! It can take 12 months even if everything is normal. Think of the people who take years and years to have a baby. Yabu.

Purplepixiedust Thu 03-Dec-15 12:55:05

Sounds normal to me too. I think once we decide we want something, we tend to want it now and that is the same with having a baby. Lots of people stop using contraception and expect to become pregnant but for many of is it takes a while. Good luck.

Doublebubblebubble Thu 03-Dec-15 12:56:18

I think its normal too but also agree that its still very very very very early to be worrying. It will happen when it happen x

LuciaInFurs Thu 03-Dec-15 12:57:30

I feel exactly the same way but we haven't started ttc. Good luck!

cailindana Thu 03-Dec-15 12:58:59

It's called broodiness and it's like a sort of madness. It hit me like a train when I was 27. I now have two gorgeous kids smile Waiting for it all to happen is very hard, but you have every chance, good luck.

WineIsMyMainVice Thu 03-Dec-15 13:01:41

It took me 7 years to conceive. So I know that feeling of obsession! But just try and appreciate life before children, and enjoy doing all the things that will be 100 times harder once your little one(s) come along! Every month that you are not pg may seem like a disaster, but try and think of it as another month to go to the cinema for the evening, or phone a friend and go out spontaneously! Believe me, there will be times when you yearn to be able to do those things again without having to plan it a month in advance!!
Good luck!

Freezingwinter Thu 03-Dec-15 13:02:57

Of course yanbu I remember ttc well and it wasn't fun! Just a note took me 10 months, up to a year sometimes even longer is normal! try to distract yourself for now.

Ihatechoosingnames Thu 03-Dec-15 13:04:18

I think it's normal. My first DC was a result of the pill failing so I never had the desire for a child that intensely before. When we decided to TTC our second I got obsessed with having a baby very quickly and I'd be so jealous of people announcing pregnancies and births etc. As long as it isn't interfering with your day to day life I'd say it is pretty normal. I now have a 2yo and a 6 week old and I am fighting broodiness off again blush

Lozza1990 Thu 03-Dec-15 13:10:20

Tbh I think it's normal, it took me 5 months to conceive and I started to freak out thinking why isn't it happening. Now when I hear of couples trying for years I feel ridiculous blush. Look at the stats for getting pregnant within a year. Remember up to a year is normal!

Jw35 Thu 03-Dec-15 13:36:36

YANBU just broody!

Use calendars to chart your cycle, Dtd on days 10, 12 and 14 if you have a 28-30 day cycle. Try ovulation tests.

You can buy fertility tests on the Internet. I bought some when I was ttc, there's a female and male one. Could put your mind at rest.

All the best, 4 months I nothing without timing but if you time you could fall pregnant within 3 months if you're both healthy smile

Jw35 Thu 03-Dec-15 13:38:24

Also the day you have EWCM is your most fertile time so Dtd then! I usually have it day before ovulation. (It means 'egg white cervical mucus' and it's the really thick, clear discharge you get mid cycle

Fratelli Thu 03-Dec-15 13:45:49

It's broodiness. I've been broody since I can remember. My ds is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I'm so grateful for him. However, I would have a football team if I could!

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Thu 03-Dec-15 13:47:56

You're on the starting blocks, you have only just started. It will probably bug you when you hear of other women getting pregnant and it's hard being gracious about it when you want a baby so much. Just try and focus on being physically in good shape and keep track of your cycle.

Your peak time for ovulating is 14 days before the 1st day of your next period. Ovulation is the best time to conceive so keep an eye on the calendar and recognise the signs your body is getting ready.

As the previous poster says, a good sign you're at peak fertility, is when your cervical mucus changes consistency: stretchy and clear like egg whites. That's because your body produces more oestrogen. You'll realise your boobs are more sensitive. You may notice your sense of smell gets more acute. The raised oestrogen levels show in your lips being fuller, and your skin feels softer.

Being under- or over-weight can affect your conception chances, a healthy BMI range is 18.5 to 24.9. Try and include fruits and vegetables packed with vitamins and nutrients like zinc, folate and calcium in your diet.

Bonywasawarriorwayayix Thu 03-Dec-15 13:48:20

Totally normal OP. It might be worth using ovulation tests if you're worried. I know a few people who found they were actually ovulating at a different time to their bodily signs.

Fratelli Thu 03-Dec-15 13:59:11

Also; just enjoy ttc. I wouldn't worry about timing it yet. It depends what different people are into but for me I like spontaneous sex. I couldn't have sex that was so scheduled unless it had been longer than 12 months. Just enjoy the sex now as soon you probably won't feel like it! And enjoy just being with your partner smile

Modestandatinybitsexy Thu 03-Dec-15 14:00:12

YANBU, I feel your pain!

I felt this way about two years ago. Literally so broody it hurt. DP and I have been ttc for over a year now and it feels more constructive than just wanting it.

It's really hard to remain sane though, there are currently four pg colleagues in my part of the office alone. Makes me envy and sad... a horrible sickly turquoise colour.

Just give it time and good luck!

GinThief Thu 03-Dec-15 14:06:56

I think it's normal. I met my lovely DP two years ago and in the last few months I've suddenly become very broody. Never thought I'd be browsing the mothercare website!

Riley2015 Thu 03-Dec-15 17:07:07

Thanks for all the replies. I know I haven't been trying long. I have felt this feeling for a few years now but it's got more intense now I'm actually TTC. I guess this is what feeling broody is lol x

Katinkka Thu 03-Dec-15 17:09:01

Yanbu. I remember the feeling well and I didn't have any problems getting pregnant. (Just staying pregnant)

ThroughThickAndThin01 Thu 03-Dec-15 17:10:21

Totally normal.

I was very nonchalent about the whole thing when we first started trying for a baby; 4 months later I was totally obsessed, 8 months later beside myself that I hadn't conceived. Luckily I did in month 9.

Good luck.

VocationalGoat Thu 03-Dec-15 17:13:42

Very normal! I had no interest in babies then I hit 28 and my ovaries were on fire! Had DC1 at 29! God I never had such broodiness! I calmed down with my other kids. I knew the drill by then and although I wanted more children and feel so incredibly blessed, I knew what was in store with DCs 2 & 3...delighted to have more, but I was less broody. grin Motherhood and raising kids is something you live, learn, and love but it is full on.

I just think your body is telling you "It's time!" grin
Best of luck. Don't worry, it can take a few months to a year so don't panic. flowers

strawberryandaflake Thu 03-Dec-15 17:16:16

It's your hormones and your (young) age. Give it a couple of months and it will subside.

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