I have a small group of friends I've known for over 25 years (since school).
We've kept in regular contact over the years, although in the last few years cracks have started to show.
They were pretty useless when I split up with my Ex (one helped me move, the others were busy). All minimised his DV and EA, and for a while kept in touch with him (and it's only in the last couple of years they've stopped saying what a shame it was we split up).
More recently, one got married last year, and although in the build up to the big day we were still seeing her regularly, post wedding we've seen her twice (in nearly 15 months). Other meetings have been suggested but she's always too busy. Her husband is extremely introverted, doesn't like socialising, or having people to the house (hence in the 2 years they've lived together none of us has ever been invited to visit).
Another of the group has moved away, not that far per se, but a long public transport journey (me and another friend in the group dont drive) so that adds a further difficulty to meeting up.
We used to meet once every month or two at least, always get together on birthdays, Xmas etc. However this has dropped off dramatically; I've seen one of them only once this year (in Feb, when we belatedly exchanged Xmas presents), and the others not for several months.
We're getting together at the weekend but it all feels pretty token and pointless. I tried to make more of an event of it, suggesting we all bring partners (as my bf was going to give me a lift, as I'm taking all their Xmas presents and it seemed nicer than treating him as a taxi...plus as the married friend always has to rush home to her DH, I thought it might free her up to stay longer) but they were all really negative about it. I suggested meeting at midday, drinks then lunch etc, but one can't make it til 2.30, and another has to leave at 4.
I really feel quite like not bothering - I doubt we'll meet up again after this (one friend has already said let's let this be the last Xmas/ birthday exchange we do). It really feels like it's run it's course and no- one can be bothered anymore....would you think the same?
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to think this friendship is pretty much on it's last legs?
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VelvetSpoon · 03/12/2015 12:29
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