To really not want to go to this christening?

[Pepperpot123]

Hello all. My husbands bro and his wife are to get their 4th child christened soon and I really don't want to attend but feel like a bad wife and person if I don't ! Backstory is bro and wife are difficult to say the least. Bro has openly expressed his displeasure with marriage and kids but can't leave due to amount and ages of kids. He is also main wage earner as she doesn't work. Visits to the house are notoriously difficult ie they will cancel at the last minute but be annoyed if you're seen not to make the effort. When we do get down there the atmosphere is awful and it's like they can wait for people to leave- probably see them 3 to 4 times a year so really not excessive. Last time we were there wife was pulling faces behind our backs and wouldn't give eye contact it was awful and uncomfortable. This is a long running issue that happened before I came on the scene. She has sent planned visitor away and been rude and also texts family members abuse! Sorry but I just feel that I really don't want to go to this christening due to issues mentioned above. DH will go for his bro and kids sake.

[kissmethere]

No I wouldn't go they sound awful. Poor kids. Or for the kids sake just go to the service and say you've double booked and won't make the party.

[Pepperpot123]

Thanks I feel bad. Kids are lovely but I suspect mum puts them up to asking me things aswell like 'when are you having a baby?' This occurs seriously incessantly when I'm there!

[redexpat]

It is an invitation, not a summons. Just say you have a previous commitment and are unable to come.

[KeepOnMoving1]

I would just go, only because it's for the baby and to be there for your dh. Just make a plan to leave quickly?

[Akire]

Sound right charmers! Send a card wishing the child well and sorry you have plans.