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I absolutely hate working and believe it to be the worst thing about being an adult. AIBU?

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IntoTheSunset Tue 01-Dec-15 17:16:47

I'd like to allay any concerns that anyone might have about my work ethic firstly. No one has ever complained about it in any job I've had. I realise that people have to work. I just find it depressing that I will likely have to continue working into my sixties and beyond. I'm 42 and would gladly retire tomorrow if I could. I also don't like how a person's place in society is defined by their job ahead of anything else. Do any MNers feel similarly?

grimbletart Tue 01-Dec-15 17:21:43

Honestly no. I've had a terrific time working and finally retired at 70. Could have gone on but DH's health and the fact that I spent a lot of time working abroad, didn't mix.

SeasonalVag Tue 01-Dec-15 17:22:04

Yes. I agree wholeheartedly. I was so relieved to get pregnant and get off the treadmill for a few years. I'm dreading going back as I know it'll be for ever

M48294Y Tue 01-Dec-15 17:25:08

God no! I've had some brilliant jobs and met some excellent people through them. Life is a treadmill and I think you have a definite case of grass being greener op. Can you think about a change? 42 is still young.

Being a sahm is excessively dull a lot of the time, and I'm sure my retired relatives don't feel blessed and joyous every single day.

EssentialHummus Tue 01-Dec-15 17:25:53

Yes, with knobs on.

This poem sums up my feelings towards work en-fucking-tirely.

TheBunnyOfDoom Tue 01-Dec-15 17:27:27

Yep, 100% agree with you!

BackInTheRealWorld Tue 01-Dec-15 17:27:55

I love my job, I absolutely LOVE it. I've also had some crap jobs that I hated. But what I hated most of all was not having a job. Being unemployed SUCKED.

ilovesooty Tue 01-Dec-15 17:28:10

Absolutely not. I love my job and don't ever want to retire unless health issues prevent me from doing it.

IcecreamBus Tue 01-Dec-15 17:28:51

Yup, I agree! Being a SAHM has its dull moments, but it's bliss compared to dragging myself to work every morning. I'm not going back ever.

littlemermaid80 Tue 01-Dec-15 17:29:01

I suffer with depression and anxiety and so work has always been difficult for me. I've also experienced workplace bullying which didn't do my anxiety any favours.

We have no choice but to need two incomes plus I enjoy having my own money, rather than relying on DH for "pocket money" so have to just get on with it.
At the moment I'm in a job I enjoy most of the time with nice people, so just have to focus on the positives, and remind myself that I'm actually lucky to have a job at all.

OrangeSquashTallGlass Tue 01-Dec-15 17:29:04

Pack it in and become self sufficient a la The Good Life?

FishOn Tue 01-Dec-15 17:29:07

I agree

<awaits lottery win>

VestalVirgin Tue 01-Dec-15 17:29:34

I would have to know what your job is to be able to determine whether you are being unreasonable.
Not all jobs are fun and fulfilling.

Maybe, if your job itself is boring, try to find some place to work where you can feel that your work has a positive impact on society.

RunRabbitRunRabbit Tue 01-Dec-15 17:29:56

I love my job. I fully intend to work until I'm dead. Retirement is my idea of hell.

theshitestuff Tue 01-Dec-15 17:30:11

Pack it in and go benefits.

I hear it's a great life - you'll get a big house, big telly and have loads of spare cash

FindoGask Tue 01-Dec-15 17:33:17

"I was looking for a job and and then I found a job, and heaven knows I'm miserable now"


Drew64 Tue 01-Dec-15 17:37:35

100% behind OP.

I hate my job with a passion.
I come in, do my job, take my money and go home!
I have no enthusiasm for it and can think of 100 better, more constructive things to be doing every day!

It makes it worse when I've up to a 3hr commute (round trip) and work about 8hrs a day.
That's 11hrs a day I am out of the house.
I sleep for 6hrs a night so in total I only have 5hrs a day with my DW and DC.

I feel even shittier now!

AliceScarlett Tue 01-Dec-15 17:44:09

I'm on the fence, I love my job, feel really privileged to have it and it gives me a sense of purpose and meaning in my life. My commute is 10min drive (think that definately helps). But, it is hard, long hours, NHS is on its knees, etc.
I'd like to work part time, that would do me. But can't afford it.

abbieanders Tue 01-Dec-15 17:46:50

Yeah, I agree, OP. My job is not in any sense dirty, degrading or in an area where people are routinely disrespected or attacked and it's not poorly paid.

However, I find it a real drag. It's not stimulating and is pretty pointless, really.

Dreading the end of maternity leave. My little baby is much better than my colleagues, I am dreading the two hour commute and just the sense of being on a treadmill.

HaydeeofMonteCristo Tue 01-Dec-15 17:47:35

I enjoy my job. I don't live for it as such but I'm glad it's part of my life.

I think a person's job is part of what defines them, but obviously what they are like as a person should also be important. It's not everything about a person, clearly.

somedays I do like my job, I find it a huge responsibility though and quite stressful. If someone gave me enough money tomorrow to have the equivalent of my salary every month I would happily leave, tis only the money keeping me at it. I would volunteer a few days a week and potter the rest if I could afford it.

Writerwannabe83 Tue 01-Dec-15 17:49:58

I'm lucky that I absolutely love my job.

I I have far more amazing days than bad days. My job is a huge part of my life and I'm happy when I'm doing it.

DickDewy Tue 01-Dec-15 17:51:22

It depends on what you do.

I was a waiter when I was a student - that was the most awful job ever.

I do a job that I enjoy and trained for for a long time.

IsabellaofFrance Tue 01-Dec-15 17:51:58

I hear it's a great life - you'll get a big house, big telly and have loads of spare cash

You forgot the goat grin

AnneElliott Tue 01-Dec-15 17:53:03

I love my job! Always have done and I don't want to retire. I don't know what I'd do all day ( although I'm only 37 so retirement is a long way off).

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