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TeaFathers Tue 01-Dec-15 12:41:47

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Early next year, I'll have been single for a decade. I'm 43.
In this time, I've had :
3 dates
2 one night stands
That's all. There seems to be no decent men left to meet.

what's the longest you've been single for?
Is there any hope for middle aged women or should I just join the nearest nunnery?

IHaveBrilloHair Tue 01-Dec-15 12:43:55

5 years and I'm happy to stay this way, I'm 38.

Twindroops Tue 01-Dec-15 12:47:58

I haven't been single at all in my adult life. BUT. I have quite a few friends that are including one, late thirties . Never had a serious relationship until last new year. She is now married and pregnant!

Another friend was fed up of being single so made a pact with herself to throw herself into online dating, meeting up with almost everyone she met online. She met the one within weeks.

Of course there is hope. There are wonderful men out there possibly just round the corner. Good luck OP.

mumblechum1 Tue 01-Dec-15 12:50:25

9 weeks in 37 years blush

wasonthelist Tue 01-Dec-15 12:54:02

53, male, had several periods of singledom and involutary celebacy, most recently for 4 years. I could say the exact same about all the decent women but I live in hope (the idea not the Derbyshire village).

hefzi Tue 01-Dec-15 12:56:43

9 years. I'm 41.

No dates. refuses to be drawn on the ONS issue

I seem to have been at the stage for ages where men my age have been married - now, it seems I am only of interest to the over 60s and the under 21s: neither of which group does a lot for me.

Thankfully, I am happy to be alone and haven't been looking - originally, it was a self-imposed purdah to sort my shit out: it became a lifestyle choice!

StarOnTheTree Tue 01-Dec-15 13:04:28

I'm 46 and I've been single nearly 10 years. It's working out really well grin

Birdsgottafly Tue 01-Dec-15 13:06:23

Three years, I've lived alone for fifteen years, though. I'm 47.

I've joined online dating, but then my Mum passed away and I haven't been seriously unwell.

I don't know if it's now bad mannered to only just reply to the messages I've received.

I would date someone in their early 60's, under the right circumstances.

But I know what you mean in regards to there being a lack of "normal/decent" men.

wasonthelist Tue 01-Dec-15 13:06:18

Oh and never had a ons - wouldn't know where to get one smile

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Tue 01-Dec-15 13:07:50

6 months in 13 adult years.

MrsToddsShortcut Tue 01-Dec-15 13:09:35

6 years and counting. Single parent with no money, can't afford a babysitter, exH rarely has kids so no opportunity to go out/meet someone. Wherever I go, my kids go too. I don't miss relationships but I miss sex grin. I can't see things changing any time soon sadly.

ProcrastinatorGeneral Tue 01-Dec-15 13:11:03

About ten years. Doesn't bother me most of the time.

MaxPepsi Tue 01-Dec-15 13:11:40

All my life until I was 34.

I probably went on half a dozen dates, but they were drinks only. I never got taken for a meal, or to the cinema etc.

I had a fair number of ONS in my late teens, early 20's.

I'm 40 now and married.

DH is 45 and has probably been single for 2 months maximum!

Junosmum Tue 01-Dec-15 13:12:07

3 weeks...

twirlypoo Tue 01-Dec-15 13:15:51

I am 35 next month, been single 4.5 years and had 2 ONS in that time, and 1 date.

I am quite stuck in my ways now, which doesn't help. He would have to be super man to tempt me off my sofa and convince me I am better off coupled up!

GreatFuckability Tue 01-Dec-15 13:16:30

Currently been single for 2 years with no inclination to change that, I'm 35. In that two years I've had 1 ONS. no dates.

Birdsgottafly Tue 01-Dec-15 13:24:08

I haven't had that many ONS, but I've had a few FWB.

lushaliciousbob Tue 01-Dec-15 13:31:04

Never had a seriously relationship. am nearly mid twenties. Doesn't bother me too much but do get waves of loneliness.
mrstodds I really feel for you sad I'm a nanny (and babysitter!) and if I knew someone locally who didn't get any time for themselves I would seriously babysit the odd free night. You need to have some time for for yourself smile

AlpacaPicnic Tue 01-Dec-15 13:31:09

Fifteen years - because I met DH at school wink or is that not quite what you meant?!

Seriously though, I was 15, he was 17 and we've been together ever since. So never through my adult life.

Frostycake Tue 01-Dec-15 13:32:33

I am 47 and in my lifetime, I have been on a hundred first dates. The longest I've been single is 2 years.

I ended my last relationship at the beginning of January 2014 and haven't had a date since. I couldn't be happier.

Like you say, there are very few decent men left in the dating pool. A lot of those I came across, appeared to be single but were married or in relationships, only telling me this after a date or two (and in one case, disappearing after 6 months, only to be seen on Sky TV with HIS WIFE. I doubt his wife ever knew she was separated tbh). In the past I've met so many men with drinking problems and debt problems and those who just want to stay at home and not work, playing on their computers. It's very disappointing. I'd rather spend time with my friends to be honest. I am in the Midlands though and there is a dearth of talent here - they either go North or South (generally South).

I think I'd have to be exceptionally lucky now to find a kind, warm, hardworking, honest man my age who likes country walks, national trust properties, tech and travel. I've been told Alaska would suit me! grin

Epilepsyhelp Tue 01-Dec-15 13:48:05

I'd say about two years in aggregate over the last 15 years. I'm a bit of a serial monogamist. Finally found the right one though!

BornToFolk Tue 01-Dec-15 13:48:36

Alpaca That really wasn't the most sensitive of posts, given the tone of OP, was it? hmm

Anyway, I'm 38 and have been properly single for 3.5 years since splitting up with my partner of 12 years. In that time, I was seeing someone for 6 months ish (complicated, a bit undefined!) No other dates. Plenty of opportunities for one night stands (Tinder is where you find those, for whoever was asking wink) but I know that I could not handle that emotionally so avoid.

I've done online dating on and off and keep meeting men who would be otherwise perfect if not for one key issue. Current one is that he lives 60 mile away from me! So, in my experience, they are out there, just a bit few and far between.

TheGirlFromIpanema Tue 01-Dec-15 13:53:09

I've been mostly single for 7 years and have loved it grin

wasonthelist Tue 01-Dec-15 13:53:41

Something doesn't add up here. I live in in Midlands, don't have an x box or a drink problem, am gainfully employed, but still single :-)

wowis Tue 01-Dec-15 13:59:25

was single for 3 years after xh left. Totally felt all the men left were passive aggressive and weird, trawled through the online dating scene and after some horrendous dates (got offered drugs, was bored with flight paths, ended up sitting in a changing room while he bought some jeans all first dates too) finally met the one. He proposed two weeks ago and I just couldn't be happier.
They are out there if you aren't happy single keep looking. best thing I ever did. smile

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