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Aibu not to write from mum & dad

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elf0508 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:05:15

My partner doesn't want to buy anything for our son for Christmas and expects me to write from mum and dad on his gifts. WTF. Why would I? I've spent time and money choosing a gift and wrapping it why should he get credit too?angry

sooperdooper Mon 30-Nov-15 18:06:03

Eh? Why doesn't he want to but your child a Christmas present? That's a much bigger issue than what gets written on a tag!!

Savagebeauty Mon 30-Nov-15 18:06:27

Does it not come from joint money?
Did you not discuss what you were going to buy your son ?

NickNacks Mon 30-Nov-15 18:06:34

Because it would hurt your son and you're supposed to love your child more than you hate your partner.

credited to judge Judy

HighwayDragon1 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:07:11

Huh, you're either together and it's all from both of you or you're not?

usual Mon 30-Nov-15 18:07:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Jackie0 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:08:12

He doesn't want gifts for the boy full stop or he doesn't want to buy them?
Don't parents buy joint gifts for their children , unless you are separated of course.

elf0508 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:08:44

No not joint money, our son is only 18 months so he doesn't see the point of getting anything, he only got him a sleep suit last year and that's cause it was on sale

Gazelda Mon 30-Nov-15 18:08:51

If you are together, and both parents to the child, then why aren't you doing it jointly? Why doesn't he want to get his son a gift?
How old is your DS?

MizK Mon 30-Nov-15 18:09:26

How old is your son? If he is little I would just put from Santa.

I might be inclined to write his name on the gifts if your son is a bit older and you want to protect him from being hurt that his dad hasn't bothered to get him anything for Christmas.

When my ex has been appallingly thoughtless towards my DC I have gritted my teeth and covered for him as best I can, purely to save them from being crushed.

Now they are teenagers they see things exactly as they are unfortunately.

Gazelda Mon 30-Nov-15 18:09:37

What did you do for your DS's birthday?

MizK Mon 30-Nov-15 18:11:06


If he's only 18 months and youre still together what does it matter?

Jackie0 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:11:45

That's a bit heartbreaking op.
At what age does he think children should start to get presents ?

elf0508 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:11:56

Just put from mum, he only got him a t shirt for his birthday which wasn't wrapped so no need to write on it if you get me

PaintedTshirt Mon 30-Nov-15 18:13:13

I just don't get this 'no joint money' thing. You're are either a couple and a family or just two people living in the same household that shag occasionally.

elf0508 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:14:14

"When they know what's going on" he doesn't allow toys in our house either because our son throws them. God reading this post is making me wonder what I'm still doing with him! I wouldn't expect dad and mum on any gift he got

KeepOnMoving1 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:14:08

It's a shame that you do the mine and yours thing. And you have a child together.

LaurieFairyCake Mon 30-Nov-15 18:14:15

Sorry to state the obvious but unless your kids a genius it's not going to be able to read the tag

So it doesn't matter at all

Jackie0 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:15:21

The name on the tag is irrelevant obviously , unless your child is extremely gifted .
What's concerning is your dp not thinking children should have gifts .
The little boy is 18m and I'm sure he loves presents .

elf0508 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:15:11

He only gives me £100 and that goes on shopping and council tax, I am lucky if he lets me have any more money, so I buy my son presents from my money, never had joint finance

Jackie0 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:16:09

You don't have toys in the house ?!?!
Bloody hell

Gazelda Mon 30-Nov-15 18:16:43

No toys?! I presume your DS is allowed To play, sing, make a mess, draw etc?

CalleighDoodle Mon 30-Nov-15 18:17:13

There are much bigger issues here. Move this to relationships.

Jackie0 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:17:23

Maybe you should into how much you'd get as a lone parent op wink

Jackie0 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:18:01

Look into , sorry ,cross on your behalf

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