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To be pissed off that H has lit the fire 'for me'?

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Nottalotta Mon 30-Nov-15 17:53:54

And expects me to keep it going while he sits in the bath for over an hour? DS (4months) has just fallen asleep on me after the night from hell and a shitty day which included immunisations. DH has lit the fire for me and gone to have his usual lengthy bath. Leaving me to deal with DS, the fire, and cook dinner at some point.

I was quite happy to just sit here til DS woke up tbh. Now I wil have to either let the fire go out, or move whivh will wake ds up. Hes napped for about 45 minutes all day. Ugh.

Backawaynow2 Mon 30-Nov-15 17:57:13

Text the fucker!

pinkyredrose Mon 30-Nov-15 17:59:18

Hour long bath!? How often does he do that? YANBU by the way.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Mon 30-Nov-15 17:59:06

You've had a hard night and day and he's in the bath, why aren't you in the bath having a soak?

He can cook tea but I would keep the fire going, I love a real fire.

shutupandshop Mon 30-Nov-15 18:00:15

While intentions are good. I'd text him as well.

shutupandshop Mon 30-Nov-15 18:00:41

Or let the fire ho put and he can vook tea

hesterton Mon 30-Nov-15 18:01:38

You leave the fire and don't risk waking baby. He can relight it after his megasoak.

Enjoy your sleepy cuddle.

stealthsquiggle Mon 30-Nov-15 18:06:32

Enjoy the fire while it lasts, but if it goes out before he gets out of the bath then too bad, he will have to relight it. And he can definitely cook. Stay where you are.

TrinityForce Mon 30-Nov-15 18:08:30

agree with everyone else.

enjoy snuggles with yout baby smile

Nottalotta Mon 30-Nov-15 18:11:13

Hour long baths nightly. Can't/won't cook.

I managed to ease myself up and lob some logs over the guard so its roaring away emitting no heat at all.

whois Mon 30-Nov-15 18:11:54

Yup - enjoy the fire and your sleeping baby. If fire goes out, he can relight it. No drama. And he can cook tea.

MoreGilmoreGirls Mon 30-Nov-15 18:14:00

He'd best go get you a takeaway then OP. After he's piled up the fire grin

Nottalotta Mon 30-Nov-15 18:17:27

He'll be pissed off if i let it go out.

Epilepsyhelp Mon 30-Nov-15 18:18:15

No heat at all?! What kind of fire is it?! Mine kicks out so much heat I love it.

As for DH, maybe he didn't think about the keeping it going aspect? Hour long baths isn't fair every night, and either he learns to cook or he provides food in some other way regularly - I can't think of a way that isn't take away/ready meals which obviously is not good on a regular basis.. My DH won't do housework so he pays for a cleaner, I don't care that he doesn't do it himself as long as he's not leaving the whole task to me through his laziness.

VagueIdeas Mon 30-Nov-15 18:18:59

Nice of him to check out of family life (copyright: Mumsnet) for an hour every night.

He'll be pissed off if the fire goes out? Boo hoo.

HackerFucker22 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:20:11

Urm.... let the fire go out.

Why would you even consider doing anything else?

Also get H to cook or at very least order a take out.

TrinityForce Mon 30-Nov-15 18:21:17

He'll be pissed off if you let the fire go out?

Tough luck, he shouldn't have gone for a long fucking bath then.

var123 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:21:47

Too bad. He'd be upset if he was in your shoes too.

Definitely let it go out and then say that you thought he'd be back before it went out else you can't think why he'd light it if he wasn't staying around to look after it. Then do this every time until he realises that he has to see things through or ask you to share his work (and open himself up to sharing yours).

HackerFucker22 Mon 30-Nov-15 18:22:00

Boo fucking hoo if poor diddums is pissed off.

I sense much deeper problems here OP.

Supermanspants Mon 30-Nov-15 18:31:41

Nice of him to check out of family life (copyright: Mumsnet) for an hour every night


P1nkP0ppy Mon 30-Nov-15 18:32:22

He think himself privileged doesn't he? Arrogant bastard.

He needs a servant, he doesn't deserve you.
Perhaps a valet who would run the bath, warm his slippers, put his toothpaste on his toothbrush, a la Prince Charles?

Supermanspants Mon 30-Nov-15 18:33:23

OP.... why didn't you just tell him that no, you wouldn't be able to supervise true fire for all the reasons you laid out in your first post.

LumpySpacedPrincess Mon 30-Nov-15 18:33:34

Why are you accepting this? Genuine question.

Nottalotta Mon 30-Nov-15 18:34:13

Its roaring all the heat up the chimney because i literally chucked logs at it while holding the baby, and its really windy. It needed 'tending to' properly.

Yes, deeper issues indeed but its like he's determined to drive home how unthinking he is. He probably thought i would put Ds to bed as have done for a few nights now but it just didn't work the last two nights and after the past 24hrs i just don't want to.

velourvoyageur Mon 30-Nov-15 18:37:24

Is he often like this, OP? I hope you're not nervous of him being pissed off. It shouldn't make you feel scared.

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