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help DH is taking the mickey..!

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BreadEyes Sun 29-Nov-15 20:14:14

Honestly. God knows I am a tolerant person - I have 2 children haha!! But DH is old enough to realise that it very much gets my goat when he does not clean up after himself! He leaves his clothes every which way and recently he has been laughing at me with our two children! The cheek. And just yesterday I heard ds saying "I have left my clothes on the floor for the laundry lady to find" WE DO NOT HAVE A LAUNDRY LADY!! That's right, dh has taught our kids to be as lazy as he is angry Help what do I do to change this behaviour??!?!

Thattimeofyearagain Sun 29-Nov-15 20:15:50

You tell him to grow the fuck up and behave like an adult.

Creiddylad Sun 29-Nov-15 20:16:05

Don't do his laundry unless he picks it up and puts it in the laundry basket.

That is what I do with my teenagers.

Thattimeofyearagain Sun 29-Nov-15 20:17:13

Or just stop doing his laundry.

LimitedSedition Sun 29-Nov-15 20:18:04

I call strike.

RunRabbitRunRabbit Sun 29-Nov-15 20:17:44

In our house only the laundry in the basket gets washed.

If DH behaved like that I would never wash any of his clothes again. He is a grown up he can use the machine for his stuff.

You are the parent. If the child deliberately makes more work for you and insults you, you make them fix the problem and punish them for the insult.

AgentProvocateur Sun 29-Nov-15 20:17:58

You stop being such a doormat and let him do his own laundry.

milaforni Sun 29-Nov-15 20:18:00

^ this

Plomino Sun 29-Nov-15 20:18:17

You do nothing . As in literally , do nothing . They have a wife and a mother , not fucking domestic staff . And when they have no clean clothes , or dinner , or can't find a clean cup to drink out out , maybe they might learn some fucking respect .

Canyouforgiveher Sun 29-Nov-15 20:19:43

For your husband, you stop doing his laundry - leave it on the floor and walk around it - or on walk on it if you like. If that doesn't work, pick it up and put it in the bin.

For your son if he is a teen - ditto as for husband.

If your son is a child, then march him down to where he left the clothes, stand over him until he picks them up and puts them in the right place and then tell him very crossly not to ever do that again. Like you do with other things he does that need to be changed.

museumum Sun 29-Nov-15 20:21:32

My dh does his own laundry. Not to do with any sort of argument or to prove a point but we've just found it easier to wash separately except one towels and sheets wash. Ds's clothes form one wash and whoever gets the chance gets his stuff done.

milaforni Sun 29-Nov-15 20:22:58

Oops...cross post. I was aiming at Creiddylad's post. But all the rest are good to. ⚡️⚡️

Lweji Sun 29-Nov-15 20:23:35

He does his own laundry and the kids. You tell them to give the clothes to the Lord of the Laundry.
He irons them too.

BreadEyes Sun 29-Nov-15 20:24:38

Oh believe me I have tried this but none of them responds well to critiscism. I fear I have spoiled them too much.... but I simply cannot abide a dirty house

Krampus Sun 29-Nov-15 20:26:30

Shout at your partner to not be so fucking stupid.
Don't wash his clothes.
Shout at children to pick up own clothes.

ShebaShimmyShake Sun 29-Nov-15 20:27:00

The laundry lady should leave his clothes in a muddy puddle outside.

Thumbcat Sun 29-Nov-15 20:28:27

You're not doing your son's future partners any favours by letting him get away with being as lazy and disrespectful as your husband.

longdiling Sun 29-Nov-15 20:28:31

Put the clothes in a bin bag. Put them out for the bin men.

Arfarfanarf Sun 29-Nov-15 20:29:19

well then you're stuck. If they know you will huff about and do it anyway, they're going to carry on taking the piss, aren't they?

So what if they don't respond well to criticism? Maybe they shouldn't be doing things that deserve to be criticised. They aren't that fussed about how you feel so why are you so concerned about protecting their feelings?

I would rather live in a messy house for a month and have them get a dose of reality than carry on with the full maid service allowing them to continue to treat me like a domestic appliance.

motherinferior Sun 29-Nov-15 20:28:57

If it's the stuff lying around you don't like, Buy a nice-looking laundry basket and put all their laundry in it. And leave it.

munkisocks Sun 29-Nov-15 20:29:42

I usually say I couldn't find their clothes to wash so they haven't been washed and they should go find them instead. Results in DH going looking when he realises his jeans aren't clean and neatly hung in wardrobe.

Or get all the dirty clothes off the floor and put them in his bed under duvet for him to find when he goes to bed.

Goingtobeawesome Sun 29-Nov-15 20:31:01

So because they don't respond well to criticism you become a mug? Yeah, you need to rethink that.

Some of my kids are not getting it so two weeks running one hasn't had any pocket money. They are so cross they have refused to eat tea. The other has got reduced money and the one who did all his jobs and got full money last week got nothing today. Kitchen looks a mess but I'm ignoring. I'm not a fucking slave.

mintoil Sun 29-Nov-15 20:32:31

If you cannot bear an untidy house then explain that any dirty clothes left on floor "for the laundry lady" will be tidied into the bin. See how he likes that?

Doesn't sound like he respects you at all.

FoxesSitOnBoxes Sun 29-Nov-15 20:32:44

I'm like you so I pick it up and put it in his side of the bed all neat under the covers so I can't see it

Paintedhandprints Sun 29-Nov-15 20:37:44

Wow. Your 'dh' does not really respect you does he? Does he have any redeeming qualities? Teaching your own children to mock you? I would be tearing dh a new one. Not sure what to do with kids. They are just following your and dh's lead for behavior. I wouldn't have tolerated this behavior. Perhaps you should hire an actual cleaning lady? angryshock

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