To think my birthday could have been acknowledged?

[trudgingalong]

It was on Thursday and no one has even acknowledged it.

Not one card, gift, flowers or Cadburys Milk Tray has entered this house

What happens to you on your birthday? Admittedly birthdays and Christmas tend to be fairly low key but I don't think mines ever gone by without even a card before. AIBU to feel a mixture of amused and sort of hurt?

[gleam]

Happy Birthday!

[TheSeptemberIssue]

Who is in your house? (dh/dp/dc's?)

Did you mention anything to do with your birthday before the day?

[MidnightVelvetthe4th]

Happy birthday for Thursday

Have you said anything? Who has forgotten, a dp or children....?

You will get lots of replies saying an adult birthday isn't important but it is in our house & I would be massively hurt! Particularly as I'm the one who always buys for everyone else, for me it would show a huge lack of care & thoughtfulness.

[TheSeptemberIssue]

And happy birthday for last Thursday!!!

[TPel]

That is sad. Do you have people at home who could have bought you a card and given you a hug? If so, they are being rather nasty.

[Squeegle]

How old are you? Who knew it was your birthday? In my experience the older you are, the more birthdays are forgotten!

[gleam]

And to answer your question, birthdays are quite the thing here. We do a decorated 'birthday table' with presents etc.

But that's the way we've always done it, so it's the norm for us. Birthdays are more important than Christmas.

Do you feel you can't say anything?

[RJnomore1]

Oh good lord that's awful I would not be happy. I appreciate people do different things but a card, a happy birthday and done toast in bed costs very little. To completely ignore it?

[trudgingalong]

Yes, I suspect you're right Squeegle! Is this the steady decline into middle age!? Yes, husband and children at home and I am now 34

I thought they might have been planning something for the weekend (I'm thinking a pizza express rather than a night at the ritz!) but apparently not. I just got a disinterested 'oh, sorry' when we went past a car with a number plate OLD and I trilled 'oh, haha, that is me!'

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

I think to have been completely ignored like this is shocking.

I'm not terribly keen that my birthday should be considered a special event involving too much expense but acknowledgment and a card isn't much to expect.

[Squeegle]

Oh dear, that's a bit rubbish would definitely expect your DH to have organised the kids, even if everyone else forgot. Is he usually that offhand?

[Enjolrass]

How old are your kids? Their ages will depend on whether they should have done something?

No one did anything for your birthday? Not DH or your family?

That's really really shit. Yanbu.

[DoreenLethal]

I'd be planning on forgetting all about Christmas to be honest. How fucking ignorant.

[Squeegle]

Even though we are split up my XDP still makes sure they have remembered my birthday, and I do the same for him.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

I'm 47, I don't expect to be completely ignored as I get older.

[CatThiefKeith]

I'd be bloody furious!

My birthday is on Friday, I am at work, dh is at work and dd is at school. Dh is also working the evening, so dd and I are spending the evening at my parents.

Saturday we are going to a dickensian Christmas Market during the day, followed by a meal with friends and a few drinks in the local in the evening. Present wise, there is nothing I want or need, but I do expect a card, and to feel appreciated, a box of chocolates or similar is fine.

Do you buy the cards/presents in your house? I'd be organising nothing in future.

[TheGreenNinja]

That's awful, I'd be gutted if that happened to me. How old are your children? It was my birthday this week and mine love making cards and choosing a present - oldest is 9.
What have you said to them about it? Kick up a fuss! What would happen if you ignored everyone else's birthday?

[Pancakeflipper]

That's crap that.

Don't acknowledge theirs in future until they start worshipping you with the birthday respect you deserve (like a card and a cake).

[trudgingalong]

WHERE is that Christmas market, CatKeithThief?? I must go!

Children are preschool so I'm obviously not annoyed at them. I'm a bit miffed with DH but then he's been tied up with something at work. I was more annoyed that when I did remind him he didn't do anything!

[patterkiller]

I'm assuming your DC are still quite young but your DH needs an arse kicking. There is low key and there is just plain selfish.

For god sake women, kick off. You are worth it. Happy birthday.

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

Why's he being a twat?

Is this the first time he's treated you like this?

[TheSeptemberIssue]

Is it too late to do something?

I have to admit, I make a huge deal of birthdays. They are the one day which is all about YOU and, as such, I start talking about what I want to do for it a good month in advance.

To not acknowledge it is just beyond rude and I'd be devastated. Is this the first time this has happened?

[Unreasonablebetty]

I don't celebrate my birthday, but if My birthday had been forgotten, I would cease to do anything that o usually do for them.
To forget your birthday is really bad. That's the one day they get to celebrate you.

[Sparkletastic]

You are taking this very well. This is an astonishing oversight by your DH and if it happened to me I would genuinely question the relationship. Are you the partner that makes everything happen for the family? Is being so very reasonable and understanding actually a great plan? If you are upset then tell him and ask him to show some care for you. Happy birthday OP - make sure you do something nice for yourself if you get a chance.