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To think my birthday could have been acknowledged?

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trudgingalong Sun 29-Nov-15 10:15:55

It was on Thursday and no one has even acknowledged it.

Not one card, gift, flowers or Cadburys Milk Tray has entered this house hmm

What happens to you on your birthday? Admittedly birthdays and Christmas tend to be fairly low key but I don't think mines ever gone by without even a card before. AIBU to feel a mixture of amused and sort of hurt?

gleam Sun 29-Nov-15 10:17:38

Happy Birthday! flowers

TheSeptemberIssue Sun 29-Nov-15 10:18:52

Who is in your house? (dh/dp/dc's?)

Did you mention anything to do with your birthday before the day?

MidnightVelvetthe4th Sun 29-Nov-15 10:19:01

Happy birthday for Thursday flowers

Have you said anything? Who has forgotten, a dp or children....?

You will get lots of replies saying an adult birthday isn't important but it is in our house & I would be massively hurt! Particularly as I'm the one who always buys for everyone else, for me it would show a huge lack of care & thoughtfulness.

TheSeptemberIssue Sun 29-Nov-15 10:19:22

And happy birthday for last Thursday!!!

Squeegle Sun 29-Nov-15 10:19:55

How old are you? Who knew it was your birthday? In my experience the older you are, the more birthdays are forgotten!

TPel Sun 29-Nov-15 10:19:33

That is sad. Do you have people at home who could have bought you a card and given you a hug? If so, they are being rather nasty.

gleam Sun 29-Nov-15 10:20:47

And to answer your question, birthdays are quite the thing here. We do a decorated 'birthday table' with presents etc.

But that's the way we've always done it, so it's the norm for us. Birthdays are more important than Christmas.

Do you feel you can't say anything?

RJnomore1 Sun 29-Nov-15 10:21:10

Oh good lord that's awful I would not be happy. I appreciate people do different things but a card, a happy birthday and done toast in bed costs very little. To completely ignore it?

trudgingalong Sun 29-Nov-15 10:22:35

Yes, I suspect you're right Squeegle! Is this the steady decline into middle age!? Yes, husband and children at home and I am now 34 smile

I thought they might have been planning something for the weekend (I'm thinking a pizza express rather than a night at the ritz!) but apparently not. I just got a disinterested 'oh, sorry' when we went past a car with a number plate OLD and I trilled 'oh, haha, that is me!'

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 29-Nov-15 10:25:58

I think to have been completely ignored like this is shocking.

I'm not terribly keen that my birthday should be considered a special event involving too much expense but acknowledgment and a card isn't much to expect.

Squeegle Sun 29-Nov-15 10:26:53

Oh dear, that's a bit rubbish would definitely expect your DH to have organised the kids, even if everyone else forgot. Is he usually that offhand?

Enjolrass Sun 29-Nov-15 10:27:01

How old are your kids? Their ages will depend on whether they should have done something?

No one did anything for your birthday? Not DH or your family?

That's really really shit. Yanbu.

DoreenLethal Sun 29-Nov-15 10:27:33

I'd be planning on forgetting all about Christmas to be honest. How fucking ignorant.

Squeegle Sun 29-Nov-15 10:27:34

Even though we are split up my XDP still makes sure they have remembered my birthday, and I do the same for him.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 29-Nov-15 10:28:08

I'm 47, I don't expect to be completely ignored as I get older.

CatThiefKeith Sun 29-Nov-15 10:28:54

I'd be bloody furious!

My birthday is on Friday, I am at work, dh is at work and dd is at school. Dh is also working the evening, so dd and I are spending the evening at my parents.

Saturday we are going to a dickensian Christmas Market during the day, followed by a meal with friends and a few drinks in the local in the evening. Present wise, there is nothing I want or need, but I do expect a card, and to feel appreciated, a box of chocolates or similar is fine.

Do you buy the cards/presents in your house? I'd be organising nothing in future.

TheGreenNinja Sun 29-Nov-15 10:31:09

That's awful, I'd be gutted if that happened to me. How old are your children? It was my birthday this week and mine love making cards and choosing a present - oldest is 9.
What have you said to them about it? Kick up a fuss! What would happen if you ignored everyone else's birthday?

Pancakeflipper Sun 29-Nov-15 10:32:20

That's crap that.

Don't acknowledge theirs in future until they start worshipping you with the birthday respect you deserve (like a card and a cake).

trudgingalong Sun 29-Nov-15 10:32:55

WHERE is that Christmas market, CatKeithThief?? I must go! grin

Children are preschool so I'm obviously not annoyed at them. I'm a bit miffed with DH but then he's been tied up with something at work. I was more annoyed that when I did remind him he didn't do anything!

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 29-Nov-15 10:35:33

Why's he being a twat?

Is this the first time he's treated you like this?

patterkiller Sun 29-Nov-15 10:35:20

I'm assuming your DC are still quite young but your DH needs an arse kicking. There is low key and there is just plain selfish.

For god sake women, kick off. You are worth it. Happy birthday.

LindyHemming Sun 29-Nov-15 10:36:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TheSeptemberIssue Sun 29-Nov-15 10:36:49

Is it too late to do something?

I have to admit, I make a huge deal of birthdays. They are the one day which is all about YOU and, as such, I start talking about what I want to do for it a good month in advance.

To not acknowledge it is just beyond rude and I'd be devastated. Is this the first time this has happened?

Unreasonablebetty Sun 29-Nov-15 10:37:39

I don't celebrate my birthday, but if My birthday had been forgotten, I would cease to do anything that o usually do for them.
To forget your birthday is really bad. That's the one day they get to celebrate you.

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