AIBU for not changing my day out with DD so friend can come

[NeedSomePeaceAndQuite]

I have a 3 yo DD and have booked for us to go to a winter wonderland type thing in December before the schools break up so it won't be as busy hopefully I've already got our tickets and paid extra for her to meet Santa and I'm really looking forward to a day just the two of us.

Now my DFriend knows we're going and has decided that her DD would love to go so I should change mine and DDs tickets to go on a day when her DD has broken up from school then I can drive them both with me and we can all go together but I've said no. I purposely choose a date that I think would be better for me and DD and don't want to go when the schools have broken up so just going to keep my tickets and have a daughter day with my DD

She is not happy, apparently I'm depriving her DD of a day out she would love when I could easily change my dates and my DD would enjoy it more having someone else there

So AIBU refusing to change mine and DDs tickets ?

[Mrsmorton]

Nope!!

I wouldn't, although I don't have children but YANBU.

[MrsGentlyBenevolent]

No, she's trying to emotionally blackmail you for a free lift. I think you're being very sensible trying to avoid the crowds - plus you obviously just want to enjoy the day with just the two of you. Stand firm, don't be guilted into it.

[ProcrastinatorGeneral]

No you're not. Your friend isn't interested in your daughter's happiness, just your taxi impression.

Go and enjoy it when it's quieter :)

[londonrach]

Yanbu. Stick to your plans op x

[80sMum]

Do your own thing, OP. YANBU.

[FellOffMyUnicorn]

just tell her that you cant change the tickets

[Hygge]

No, she's being unreasonable.

She can take her own DD. Can she not drive or something?

Either way, YANBU. Stick to your original plans.

[PennyHasNoSurname]

She doesnt sound like much of a friend. Please do not budge on this!

[MythicalKings]

YANBU.

[rosieliveson1]

No way should you change. Going together is a nice idea but you've planned the date as it suits you best so you intend to stick with it. That's fair enough. You aren't depriving her daughter of anything as providing her daughter with experiences is not your responsibility.

[Bigpants4]

Just tell her you want to go b4 the schools break up as otherwise it will be too busy.

[Pico2]

YANBU I wish we were still I the preschool period when we could go to places without the crowds. In your position, I wouldn't swap for a day in the holidays if you paid me.

[DoreenLethal]

Oh poor her - how dreadfully mean of you to deprive her of a day out.

Not.

Don't tell her you can't change the tickets, tell her that you have chosen to go specifically because nobody else will be going.

[Lindy2]

Your friend is being rude. No way should you feel obliged to change your plans because she wants to invite herself along. Stick with what you planned and have a lovely day.

[ShamefulPlaceMarker]

Yanbu.

She sounds very selfish, and just wants a lift! Tough if she can't do it off her own steam. There are many things people can't do because of their circumstances. Doesn't mean they can make those around them feel guilty if they can!

[starry0ne]

It sounds like you have told her don't discuss it again..I do not think you are BU at all...

THe no is a complete sentence sprngs to mind here

[Pipestheghost]

Yanbu, sounds like she just wants a free ride.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

She was a bit cheeky, but not entirely unreasonable to ask - but she is very unreasonable to be kicking off because you said no!

[Twistedheartache]

Def not bu- who in their right mind would voluntarily go to something in the school hols if they had the option not to!

[tillytown]

Yanbu, plus I doubt you can change the date on your tickets anyway.

[Fizrim]

YANBU. She, on the other hand, is perhaps not in possession of her full health if she expects you to change to a busier day for her convenience. It's her job to entertain her own child, not yours.

[NeedSomePeaceAndQuite]

Thanks everyone I was starting to think I was being a bit harsh about this

I didn't know I could change my tickets but apparently DF said In a text message that I can for a small fee which I'm sure she would expect me to pay

She can't drive that's why she wants me to take her and it's not somewhere to get to easily on public transport

I'm not going to change the date, me and DD will enjoy it more if it's a little quieter and I have really been looking forward to a day just the two of us. There's so much going on over Christmas that involve lots of people so will be nice to do something just the two of us

[PurpleGreenAvocado]

YANBU, however your friend is.

[Pepperpot123]

Your friend just wants everyone to dance to her tune, have a day out with your dd as planed. You are not responsible for her dd happiness or a day out!

[expatinscotland]

YANBU.