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To think the notion of a "Birthday BJ" shouldn't exist.

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MySordidCakeSecret Thu 26-Nov-15 17:32:33

just that really.. does anyone else have to deal with this bright idea?

G1veMeStrength Thu 26-Nov-15 17:33:53

It doesn't exist in my house/life that's for sure.

MySordidCakeSecret Thu 26-Nov-15 17:34:58

it's DP's birthday and he's mentioned it a lot.. safe to say i'm not too keen!

ThroughThickAndThin01 Thu 26-Nov-15 17:35:02

I think my dh mentions this every year hmm, I think it's happened once grin

iwantgin Thu 26-Nov-15 17:35:21

Never heard of it.

DH is lucky to get a card and his breakfast made for him.

grin

Vixxfacee Thu 26-Nov-15 17:36:31

So it's such a rare occasion for your dh that it's seen as a treat on his birthday grin

GastonsChestHair Thu 26-Nov-15 17:38:26

Dh would never say this to me. He knows there'd be more chance of hell freezing over hmm

TwatTheNinja Thu 26-Nov-15 17:38:50

Never heard of it confused

WorraLiberty Thu 26-Nov-15 17:39:53

I've never heard of it.

We either have oral sex or we don't.

It has nothing to do with the date on the calender.

MySordidCakeSecret Thu 26-Nov-15 17:41:03

So it's such a rare occasion for your dh that it's seen as a treat on his birthday

Pretty much! grin it happens very rarely i suppose his tactic is to try it on and for some reason thinks that on his birthday his chances will be higher... i feel a bit bad though?!

MovemberSucks Thu 26-Nov-15 17:41:34

Do you get a birthday BJ/other indulgent sex treat from him? I used to joke about it with H, he would suggest something and I'd say "what, is it your birthday again already?" but I don't recall that he ever seriously expected any particular sexual favours on his birthday.

MySordidCakeSecret Thu 26-Nov-15 17:42:38

hell no! wouldn't want anything!

oh this is very serious.. in his mind hmm

AnyFucker Thu 26-Nov-15 17:43:05

Is this the same concept as "I'll do the washing up if you give me a blow job" ?

Fuck that. If I feel like doing something and it is greeted enthusiastically then away we go.

If I have to force myself, then it is off the table for both of us.

Grim.

Quatrefoil Thu 26-Nov-15 17:44:50

How revolting.

I love giving oral sex. As part of a mutual intimate experience.

I would never do it as a 'favour'.

MySordidCakeSecret Thu 26-Nov-15 17:45:35

i guess.. i think when we were younger a good few yrs ago i kind of went along with it for a bit of a joke.. a few yrs and 2 kids down the line and now i want to leave it behind.. in the past.. where it belongs.

Sallyingforth Thu 26-Nov-15 17:47:53

DP has never suggested a sexual treat for his birthday. But then he gets them - and returns them - regularly anyway. It's just part of life isn't it?

TPel Thu 26-Nov-15 17:48:03

What a revolting attitude - your P not you OP.

AuntieStella Thu 26-Nov-15 17:48:36

Treating your partner to what they really like on their birthday? Hell yes!

Talking about it as if it's a thing? Umm, no thanks.

PHANTOMnamechanger Thu 26-Nov-15 17:49:00

If he is pressuring you and dropping hints despite you not wanting to then he is a prize arse, birthday or not. Do not 'feel bad' or be guilt-tripped into it.

EnthusiasmDisturbed Thu 26-Nov-15 17:51:32

of course not

neither should Steak and BJ day

just nasty

do it because you want to not because you feel you should do or as a treat

Sparklingbrook Thu 26-Nov-15 17:52:52

Put some frosting on it and stick a lit candle in? smile

VestalVirgin Thu 26-Nov-15 17:55:36

I didn't know the notion existed, and I would never have to deal with it because I would end any relationship where the guy thinks he is entitled to any sexual act at all.

AnyFucker Thu 26-Nov-15 17:57:15

The only response to crap like this is "piss off"

hibbleddible Thu 26-Nov-15 17:58:19

I've never heard of it either.

Though I feel sorry for your dh that he feels that this is only a yearly treat!

XiCi Thu 26-Nov-15 17:59:25

Hmm, I'm a bit torn. Of course he shouldn't expect it as a given but I love oral and I think if my DH had deprived me of it all year I'd be bloody well trying my luck on my birthday as well!

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